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mrose88

AddieCake said:

I don't understand the concept of knowing "he's planning to propose in the spring." If you know, and you're talking about it, aren't you're already engaged and he may as well just give you the ring so you can move on with planning?

Sure, if that's what the couple wants. But some people don't feel the need to move on with the ring or planning, which is also fine. It doesn't mean the couple are walking through the world blind to the realities of how things could impact their (as-of-now-hypothetical-but-very-likely-happening-on-such-and-such-timeline) wedding. 

AddieCake

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

I don't understand the concept of knowing "he's planning to propose in the spring." If you know, and you're talking about it, aren't you're already engaged and he may as well just give you the ring so you can move on with planning?

Sure, if that's what the couple wants. But some people don't feel the need to move on with the ring or planning, which is also fine. It doesn't mean the couple are walking through the world blind to the realities of how things could impact their (as-of-now-hypothetical-but-very-likely-happening-on-such-and-such-timeline) wedding. 

You're kind of missing my point. 

mrose88

AddieCake said:

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

I don't understand the concept of knowing "he's planning to propose in the spring." If you know, and you're talking about it, aren't you're already engaged and he may as well just give you the ring so you can move on with planning?

Sure, if that's what the couple wants. But some people don't feel the need to move on with the ring or planning, which is also fine. It doesn't mean the couple are walking through the world blind to the realities of how things could impact their (as-of-now-hypothetical-but-very-likely-happening-on-such-and-such-timeline) wedding. 

You're kind of missing my point. 

I really don't think I am. Your point seems to be that if someone is planning to propose, and they're openly talking about things like a wedding timeline, you don't understand why they don't consider themselves effectively engaged and just proceed as such. 

I'm saying that if a couple doesn't want to consider themselves engaged until X event takes place, it's fine for them to exist in that weird in-between time of knowing a wedding will take place and reacting to the world accordingly (like being mindful of how other family weddings might impact the timeline they have discussed, as OP is doing).

I think *most* human beings who have gotten engaged and married have spent at least *some* time in that weird in-between. Which is why I find it so weird that so many people on this board seem to balk at it, I guess. 

AddieCake

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

I don't understand the concept of knowing "he's planning to propose in the spring." If you know, and you're talking about it, aren't you're already engaged and he may as well just give you the ring so you can move on with planning?

Sure, if that's what the couple wants. But some people don't feel the need to move on with the ring or planning, which is also fine. It doesn't mean the couple are walking through the world blind to the realities of how things could impact their (as-of-now-hypothetical-but-very-likely-happening-on-such-and-such-timeline) wedding. 

You're kind of missing my point. 

I really don't think I am. Your point seems to be that if someone is planning to propose, and they're openly talking about things like a wedding timeline, you don't understand why they don't consider themselves effectively engaged and just proceed as such. 

I'm saying that if a couple doesn't want to consider themselves engaged until X event takes place, it's fine for them to exist in that weird in-between time of knowing a wedding will take place and reacting to the world accordingly (like being mindful of how other family weddings might impact the timeline they have discussed, as OP is doing).

I think *most* human beings who have gotten engaged and married have spent at least *some* time in that weird in-between. Which is why I find it so weird that so many people on this board seem to balk at it, I guess. 

Be mindful of whatever future things may occur. I don't care. Start actively planning. I don't care. Don't start actively planning. I don't care. My point is more that once you know the ring is coming, it's silly to be waiting on a proposal. What's the point of a staged proposal at that point? To know a proposal is coming and when seems like the proposal ship has sailed. 

charlotte989875

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

I don't understand the concept of knowing "he's planning to propose in the spring." If you know, and you're talking about it, aren't you're already engaged and he may as well just give you the ring so you can move on with planning?

Sure, if that's what the couple wants. But some people don't feel the need to move on with the ring or planning, which is also fine. It doesn't mean the couple are walking through the world blind to the realities of how things could impact their (as-of-now-hypothetical-but-very-likely-happening-on-such-and-such-timeline) wedding. 

You're kind of missing my point. 

I really don't think I am. Your point seems to be that if someone is planning to propose, and they're openly talking about things like a wedding timeline, you don't understand why they don't consider themselves effectively engaged and just proceed as such. 

I'm saying that if a couple doesn't want to consider themselves engaged until X event takes place, it's fine for them to exist in that weird in-between time of knowing a wedding will take place and reacting to the world accordingly (like being mindful of how other family weddings might impact the timeline they have discussed, as OP is doing).

I think *most* human beings who have gotten engaged and married have spent at least *some* time in that weird in-between. Which is why I find it so weird that so many people on this board seem to balk at it, I guess. 

I think it's the idea that if you're actively planning a wedding, but don't consider yourself engaged because there is no ring that many people find a little silly here. If you've talked about being married, you are setting a date, planning with families, booking vendors, for all intents and purposes you're engaged. It's a little odd to insist you're not engaged if you're doing all those things but you just don't have a ring. 

I think an official proposal with a ring is great, if that's what you want. I mentioned above in this post that we waited until the time was right for us to be engaged, and of course we talked about marriage and our future. But we didn't start planning a wedding until then either. 

MobKaz

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

I don't understand the concept of knowing "he's planning to propose in the spring." If you know, and you're talking about it, aren't you're already engaged and he may as well just give you the ring so you can move on with planning?

Sure, if that's what the couple wants. But some people don't feel the need to move on with the ring or planning, which is also fine. It doesn't mean the couple are walking through the world blind to the realities of how things could impact their (as-of-now-hypothetical-but-very-likely-happening-on-such-and-such-timeline) wedding. 

You're kind of missing my point. 

I really don't think I am. Your point seems to be that if someone is planning to propose, and they're openly talking about things like a wedding timeline, you don't understand why they don't consider themselves effectively engaged and just proceed as such. 

I'm saying that if a couple doesn't want to consider themselves engaged until X event takes place, it's fine for them to exist in that weird in-between time of knowing a wedding will take place and reacting to the world accordingly (like being mindful of how other family weddings might impact the timeline they have discussed, as OP is doing).

I think *most* human beings who have gotten engaged and married have spent at least *some* time in that weird in-between. Which is why I find it so weird that so many people on this board seem to balk at it, I guess. 

My daughter existed in this world and was quite content in it.  For them, I think the difference was public versus private knowledge.  Privately, they discussed many issues based on "When we get engaged......" and "felt the waters" so to speak regarding living situations, religious versus secular ceremony, and other issues that were best discussed prior to an official engagement.  This is also when the ring style was discussed as well.  My daughter knew that "a ring was coming". In her mind, she was officially engaged when a proposal occurred.  It brought their private life into the public domain. 

No harm.  No foul.

mrose88

AddieCake said:

Be mindful of whatever future things may occur. I don't care. Start actively planning. I don't care. Don't start actively planning. I don't care. My point is more that once you know the ring is coming, it's silly to be waiting on a proposal. What's the point of a staged proposal at that point? To know a proposal is coming and when seems like the proposal ship has sailed. 

Right, I just disagree with this hard lined stance. By this logic, there are two ways to get engaged: 1) One partner proposes to the other completely spontaneously, with no prior agreement made that marriage is the desired outcome. This is done to preserve the integrity of the proposal itself. OR 2) Both partners sit down and have a conversation where marriage is decided upon, and then that's it. I think we all know the reality is somewhere in the middle for the vast majority of couples, and pretending otherwise just seems silly to me. 

mrose88

charlotte989875 said:

I think it's the idea that if you're actively planning a wedding, but don't consider yourself engaged because there is no ring that many people find a little silly here. If you've talked about being married, you are setting a date, planning with families, booking vendors, for all intents and purposes you're engaged. It's a little odd to insist you're not engaged if you're doing all those things but you just don't have a ring. 

I think an official proposal with a ring is great, if that's what you want. I mentioned above in this post that we waited until the time was right for us to be engaged, and of course we talked about marriage and our future. But we didn't start planning a wedding until then either. 

I don't disagree here, but my point is that it doesn't seem that's what OP is doing, unless I'm missing something. Letting your families know that you're talking about getting engaged soon and talking to your partner about the possible type of wedding all sound like totally normal, reasonable things to me. 

mrose88

MobKaz said:

My daughter existed in this world and was quite content in it.  For them, I think the difference was public versus private knowledge.  Privately, they discussed many issues based on "When we get engaged......" and "felt the waters" so to speak regarding living situations, religious versus secular ceremony, and other issues that were best discussed prior to an official engagement.  This is also when the ring style was discussed as well.  My daughter knew that "a ring was coming". In her mind, she was officially engaged when a proposal occurred.  It brought their private life into the public domain. 

No harm.  No foul.

Public versus private knowledge I think is the big factor, thanks for bringing that up. I told my sister and he told his two closest friends that we had discussed getting married, but that was it. Otherwise the conversation stayed between us, about things like timeline, big versus small, and whether I cared about a ring or not. 

KnotYetTied

charlotte989875 said:

I think it's the idea that if you're actively planning a wedding, but don't consider yourself engaged because there is no ring that many people find a little silly here. If you've talked about being married, you are setting a date, planning with families, booking vendors, for all intents and purposes you're engaged. It's a little odd to insist you're not engaged if you're doing all those things but you just don't have a ring.

I think an official proposal with a ring is great, if that's what you want. I mentioned above in this post that we waited until the time was right for us to be engaged, and of course we talked about marriage and our future. But we didn't start planning a wedding until then either. 

One important thing to note is how far we've gone as far as planning. As some other commenters have said, we're feeling things out. We have not and are not booking vendors yet, and do not have a date set in stone. I've talked to my family, whereas he is planning to talk to his this month. The reason for these talks is just because we both value open communication. It's probably unnecessary, as both families seem to know it's coming (I know mine did), but again it's just a courtesy. We've talked about being married, but I think a lot of couples do that before they get engaged to "feel each other out." I know if I was a guy, I wouldn't propose unless I already "knew" the answer.

As for me knowing the date; I don't like surprises. He does, so I don't know the exact date, but I know the general timeline. This was also important because we are waiting until we're engaged before having sex, and I need to get on birth control. I needed to know if my yearly exam would be in time for me to be on birth control a month before he proposed. I have PCOS and insulin resistance, and birth control may take some tinkering, so my doc doesn't want to just prescribe something without discussing the options. Sorry if that's TMI, but that's part of the reason I know the timeframe of the proposal.

So, as much as I would love to consider myself engaged already, I won't really feel that until he proposes, I have the symbol on my finger, and we've announced it publicly to the world. I have mentioned it to some close friends that he's the one, and we're planning to get engaged/married. And like I posted earlier, I regret that, because I feel I should have waited. I let my excitement get the best of me.

For my OP, thank you all for your input. Regardless of whether we elope, or have a small wedding, it will likely be in October. I'm glad that the majority agree that that shouldn't affect MFSIL's wedding day.

southernbelle0915

Knotyettied said:

charlotte989875 said:

I think it's the idea that if you're actively planning a wedding, but don't consider yourself engaged because there is no ring that many people find a little silly here. If you've talked about being married, you are setting a date, planning with families, booking vendors, for all intents and purposes you're engaged. It's a little odd to insist you're not engaged if you're doing all those things but you just don't have a ring.

I think an official proposal with a ring is great, if that's what you want. I mentioned above in this post that we waited until the time was right for us to be engaged, and of course we talked about marriage and our future. But we didn't start planning a wedding until then either. 

One important thing to note is how far we've gone as far as planning. As some other commenters have said, we're feeling things out. We have not and are not booking vendors yet, and do not have a date set in stone. I've talked to my family, whereas he is planning to talk to his this month. The reason for these talks is just because we both value open communication. It's probably unnecessary, as both families seem to know it's coming (I know mine did), but again it's just a courtesy. We've talked about being married, but I think a lot of couples do that before they get engaged to "feel each other out." I know if I was a guy, I wouldn't propose unless I already "knew" the answer.

As for me knowing the date; I don't like surprises. He does, so I don't know the exact date, but I know the general timeline. This was also important because we are waiting until we're engaged before having sex, and I need to get on birth control. I needed to know if my yearly exam would be in time for me to be on birth control a month before he proposed. I have PCOS and insulin resistance, and birth control may take some tinkering, so my doc doesn't want to just prescribe something without discussing the options. Sorry if that's TMI, but that's part of the reason I know the timeframe of the proposal.

So, as much as I would love to consider myself engaged already, I won't really feel that until he proposes, I have the symbol on my finger, and we've announced it publicly to the world. I have mentioned it to some close friends that he's the one, and we're planning to get engaged/married. And like I posted earlier, I regret that, because I feel I should have waited. I let my excitement get the best of me.

For my OP, thank you all for your input. Regardless of whether we elope, or have a small wedding, it will likely be in October. I'm glad that the majority agree that that shouldn't affect MFSIL's wedding day.

Just get on BC now. If you think it's going to take a few cycles and tries to find the right BC and you think the proposal is coming in the near future, do it sooner rather than later.  They all have crappy side effects and it takes a while to find one that jives with your body. 

You should hang around though. There are lots of people who aren't yet engaged who hang around!

AddieCake

Yeah, just get on BC now. There's no need to put that off. 

PrettyGirlLost

scribe95 said:

To each his own on when they consider themselves engaged. But until then don't start wedding planning. Just in my opinion.

Not publicly anyway.

PrettyGirlLost

MobKaz said:

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

mrose88 said:

AddieCake said:

I don't understand the concept of knowing "he's planning to propose in the spring." If you know, and you're talking about it, aren't you're already engaged and he may as well just give you the ring so you can move on with planning?

Sure, if that's what the couple wants. But some people don't feel the need to move on with the ring or planning, which is also fine. It doesn't mean the couple are walking through the world blind to the realities of how things could impact their (as-of-now-hypothetical-but-very-likely-happening-on-such-and-such-timeline) wedding. 

You're kind of missing my point. 

I really don't think I am. Your point seems to be that if someone is planning to propose, and they're openly talking about things like a wedding timeline, you don't understand why they don't consider themselves effectively engaged and just proceed as such. 

I'm saying that if a couple doesn't want to consider themselves engaged until X event takes place, it's fine for them to exist in that weird in-between time of knowing a wedding will take place and reacting to the world accordingly (like being mindful of how other family weddings might impact the timeline they have discussed, as OP is doing).

I think *most* human beings who have gotten engaged and married have spent at least *some* time in that weird in-between. Which is why I find it so weird that so many people on this board seem to balk at it, I guess. 

My daughter existed in this world and was quite content in it.  For them, I think the difference was public versus private knowledge.  Privately, they discussed many issues based on "When we get engaged......" and "felt the waters" so to speak regarding living situations, religious versus secular ceremony, and other issues that were best discussed prior to an official engagement.  This is also when the ring style was discussed as well.  My daughter knew that "a ring was coming". In her mind, she was officially engaged when a proposal occurred.  It brought their private life into the public domain. 

No harm.  No foul.

You can privately discuss the future logistics of getting married, like ring preferences, ceremony style preferences, without being engaged and its not actually planning, its just a discussion. There's nothing weird or in between about that. . .it's just being an adult.

We don't tell people discussing the possibility of having kids one day that they're in a weird in between place of TTC.

 But to me being engaged is as binary as being married- either you are or you arent- and there's a difference between private conversations about "some day" versus knowing your BF has the ring, that he's going to propose in the next 4 months, and then starting to bring families into your discussions.  

At that point it just looks like you're trying to put the cart before the horse, but that horse has already left the barn.

I'm with Addie, I just don't get it. . .in general not just specific to OP.

KnotYetTied

Definitely agree on birth control. I have to wait until February for my yearly appt. due to insurance. We're going to talk through whether I should stay on Metformin, lower the dosage, which method, etc. I should still be fine though, because his PE is April 21st and it won't be until after that.

OliveOilsMom

KnotYetTied said:

Definitely agree on birth control. I have to wait until February for my yearly appt. due to insurance. We're going to talk through whether I should stay on Metformin, lower the dosage, which method, etc. I should still be fine though, because his PE is April 21st and it won't be until after that.

Sorry for the threadjack, but:

Are you on a special diet of any kind?  Did you speak with a nutritionist about your insulin resistance?  I also have PCOS with insulin resistance being my main issue with PCOS.  I worked with a nutritionist to change my diet.  I now eat 6 times per day instead of 3.  I also took the metformin.  I had my glucose re-tested every 3 months after starting the diet and my levels were straightening themselves out.

After the first month on the new diet (really its a lifestyle change - I must eat this way forever), I got my first non-medically induced period in a LOOOONNNNNGGGG time.  The last glucose test I had, my levels were all within normal range and I stopped the metformin for good.  Baby was even conceived the old fashioned way instead of with modern medicine, even though we were already seeing a fertility doctor.  It was him who diagnosed my insulin resistance and got me to the nutritionist.  I was pre-diabetic according to my first test with him and now I just passed my glucose test for this pregnancy, so I have no issues with gestational diabetes even though I am at a higher risk for it.

So it may be worth your while to look into getting your insulin resistance fixed instead of managed with metformin.  I hated taking metformin, even after I got used to taking it.  I was so happy when I could stop taking it!  Many times GYNs aren't well versed enough to fix the insulin resistance and will only treat it.  Also, with the help of my new eating lifestyle I lost 27 pounds in 7 months and while pregnant, I'm gaining weight within the normal amount according to experts.  It was the first time I have ever successfully lost weight even though I felt like I was eating all the time.

I recommend the book "PCOS and your Fertility".

KnotYetTied

OliveOilsMom said:

KnotYetTied said:

Definitely agree on birth control. I have to wait until February for my yearly appt. due to insurance. We're going to talk through whether I should stay on Metformin, lower the dosage, which method, etc. I should still be fine though, because his PE is April 21st and it won't be until after that.

Sorry for the threadjack, but:

Are you on a special diet of any kind?  Did you speak with a nutritionist about your insulin resistance?  I also have PCOS with insulin resistance being my main issue with PCOS.  I worked with a nutritionist to change my diet.  I now eat 6 times per day instead of 3.  I also took the metformin.  I had my glucose re-tested every 3 months after starting the diet and my levels were straightening themselves out.

After the first month on the new diet (really its a lifestyle change - I must eat this way forever), I got my first non-medically induced period in a LOOOONNNNNGGGG time.  The last glucose test I had, my levels were all within normal range and I stopped the metformin for good.  Baby was even conceived the old fashioned way instead of with modern medicine, even though we were already seeing a fertility doctor.  It was him who diagnosed my insulin resistance and got me to the nutritionist.  I was pre-diabetic according to my first test with him and now I just passed my glucose test for this pregnancy, so I have no issues with gestational diabetes even though I am at a higher risk for it.

So it may be worth your while to look into getting your insulin resistance fixed instead of managed with metformin.  I hated taking metformin, even after I got used to taking it.  I was so happy when I could stop taking it!  Many times GYNs aren't well versed enough to fix the insulin resistance and will only treat it.  Also, with the help of my new eating lifestyle I lost 27 pounds in 7 months and while pregnant, I'm gaining weight within the normal amount according to experts.  It was the first time I have ever successfully lost weight even though I felt like I was eating all the time.

I recommend the book "PCOS and your Fertility".

Hey, I'm so happy that you've found something that works for you. It took me a long time to get to a happy place with all my symptoms, and I think many women who suffer with these two issues have the same struggle of finding a treatment that works for them. Insulin resistance and PCOS are no joke. However, my main issue is the PCOS, rather than the insulin resistance. I'm a healthy weight and eat well. My OB/GYN is not the one who diagnosed me, she's just coordinating treatment as far as BC. The original doctor who diagnosed me is more of a specialist.

short+sassy

KnotYetTied said:

OliveOilsMom said:

KnotYetTied said:

Definitely agree on birth control. I have to wait until February for my yearly appt. due to insurance. We're going to talk through whether I should stay on Metformin, lower the dosage, which method, etc. I should still be fine though, because his PE is April 21st and it won't be until after that.

Sorry for the threadjack, but:

Are you on a special diet of any kind?  Did you speak with a nutritionist about your insulin resistance?  I also have PCOS with insulin resistance being my main issue with PCOS.  I worked with a nutritionist to change my diet.  I now eat 6 times per day instead of 3.  I also took the metformin.  I had my glucose re-tested every 3 months after starting the diet and my levels were straightening themselves out.

After the first month on the new diet (really its a lifestyle change - I must eat this way forever), I got my first non-medically induced period in a LOOOONNNNNGGGG time.  The last glucose test I had, my levels were all within normal range and I stopped the metformin for good.  Baby was even conceived the old fashioned way instead of with modern medicine, even though we were already seeing a fertility doctor.  It was him who diagnosed my insulin resistance and got me to the nutritionist.  I was pre-diabetic according to my first test with him and now I just passed my glucose test for this pregnancy, so I have no issues with gestational diabetes even though I am at a higher risk for it.

So it may be worth your while to look into getting your insulin resistance fixed instead of managed with metformin.  I hated taking metformin, even after I got used to taking it.  I was so happy when I could stop taking it!  Many times GYNs aren't well versed enough to fix the insulin resistance and will only treat it.  Also, with the help of my new eating lifestyle I lost 27 pounds in 7 months and while pregnant, I'm gaining weight within the normal amount according to experts.  It was the first time I have ever successfully lost weight even though I felt like I was eating all the time.

I recommend the book "PCOS and your Fertility".

Hey, I'm so happy that you've found something that works for you. It took me a long time to get to a happy place with all my symptoms, and I think many women who suffer with these two issues have the same struggle of finding a treatment that works for them. Insulin resistance and PCOS are no joke. However, my main issue is the PCOS, rather than the insulin resistance. I'm a healthy weight and eat well. My OB/GYN is not the one who diagnosed me, she's just coordinating treatment as far as BC. The original doctor who diagnosed me is more of a specialist.

I have Type I diabetes and know that BC pills can slightly raise a person's blood sugar.  With that said, the effect is fairly minimal.  I take BC pills myself and my doc notched one of my insulins up by 1 cc, 2x/day (tiny amount) when I started on them.

I just wanted to mention it so your OB/GYN is aware of your Metformin (re insulin resistance) and your specialist is aware when you start taking BC pills.

Mircakes

Sorry to comment on a somewhat old post, but just wanted to say that I can relate to you on the "I know my engagement is coming" front.

I'm in the same place with my SO. We've done quite a lot of ring shopping and we've picked a design, and I know he is going to propose sometime before July, but I don't consider us engaged yet. And I'm still quite excited about the actual proposal because I have no idea when he's getting the ring, no idea when he'll actually propose, etc.  I don't think there is anything weird about knowing that the proposal is coming, but waiting for a special time/place to actually pop the question and consider yourself officially engaged. I think it's always a great idea for both parties to know the question is coming, and the answer to the question, long before it's asked. 

That said, I am not planning yet. Just looking at things out of curiosity. 

DrillSergeantCat

KnotYetTied said:

Hey, I'm so happy that you've found something that works for you. It took me a long time to get to a happy place with all my symptoms, and I think many women who suffer with these two issues have the same struggle of finding a treatment that works for them. Insulin resistance and PCOS are no joke. However, my main issue is the PCOS, rather than the insulin resistance. I'm a healthy weight and eat well. My OB/GYN is not the one who diagnosed me, she's just coordinating treatment as far as BC. The original doctor who diagnosed me is more of a specialist.

Isn't insulin resistance part of PCOS? I think I remember my GYN saying it was. 

KnotYetTied

DrillSergeantCat said:

KnotYetTied said:

Hey, I'm so happy that you've found something that works for you. It took me a long time to get to a happy place with all my symptoms, and I think many women who suffer with these two issues have the same struggle of finding a treatment that works for them. Insulin resistance and PCOS are no joke. However, my main issue is the PCOS, rather than the insulin resistance. I'm a healthy weight and eat well. My OB/GYN is not the one who diagnosed me, she's just coordinating treatment as far as BC. The original doctor who diagnosed me is more of a specialist.

Isn't insulin resistance part of PCOS? I think I remember my GYN saying it was. 

PCOS is a risk factor for insulin resistance and diabetes. It increases the risks of those issues. However, having PCOS does not necessarily mean the patient also has insulin resistance or vice versa. In my research, I have seen differing opinions on this though. Some medical professionals recognize the correlation between the two disorders, and see that one typically causes or influences the other, but do not believe that to have one is to have the other. Others believe they exist "hand-in-hand" and to diagnose one is to diagnose the other.

I will say that in my personal circumstances, my insulin resistance is not severe enough to require treatment, however my PCOS is.

DrillSergeantCat

KnotYetTied said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

KnotYetTied said:

Hey, I'm so happy that you've found something that works for you. It took me a long time to get to a happy place with all my symptoms, and I think many women who suffer with these two issues have the same struggle of finding a treatment that works for them. Insulin resistance and PCOS are no joke. However, my main issue is the PCOS, rather than the insulin resistance. I'm a healthy weight and eat well. My OB/GYN is not the one who diagnosed me, she's just coordinating treatment as far as BC. The original doctor who diagnosed me is more of a specialist.

Isn't insulin resistance part of PCOS? I think I remember my GYN saying it was. 

PCOS is a risk factor for insulin resistance and diabetes. It increases the risks of those issues. However, having PCOS does not necessarily mean the patient also has insulin resistance or vice versa. In my research, I have seen differing opinions on this though. Some medical professionals recognize the correlation between the two disorders, and see that one typically causes or influences the other, but do not believe that to have one is to have the other. Others believe they exist "hand-in-hand" and to diagnose one is to diagnose the other.

I will say that in my personal circumstances, my insulin resistance is not severe enough to require treatment, however my PCOS is.

Before I got pregnant, I had talked to my doctor about the fact that we were TTC and she mentioned that there could be a correlation between the two and I had PCOS (miraculously cleared up after years of BC) and said that if I wasn't pregnant in 6 months she would put me on Metformin.