Registering and Gifts

Destination Wedding

Hi guys,

My fiancé and I are getting Married next March in Tulum, Mexico and i'm running into a bit of a predicament.  We've lived together for four years, and honestly don't need or want anything for the house. With that being said, we could use some cash. However, since we're doing a destination wedding it seems tacky to do a "honeyfund". I've asked a few people and i'm getting mixed reviews. Most of the guests i'm assuming wont bring a gift as they've travelled so far and we're okay with that... but the ones who do want to give and also for the people that give gifts and don't go what do you think I should do ? HELPPPP. :(

Re: Destination Wedding

  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold bend over and I'll show ya
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    Hi guys,

    My fiancé and I are getting Married next March in Tulum, Mexico and i'm running into a bit of a predicament.  We've lived together for four years, and honestly don't need or want anything for the house. With that being said, we could use some cash. However, since we're doing a destination wedding it seems tacky to do a "honeyfund". I've asked a few people and i'm getting mixed reviews. Most of the guests i'm assuming wont bring a gift as they've travelled so far and we're okay with that... but the ones who do want to give and also for the people that give gifts and don't go what do you think I should do ? HELPPPP. :(
    You don't need to do anything. Don't have a registry or any kind. Most people give monetary gifts anyway. If anyone asks, it's okay to say "well we're saving for X" but don't flat out tell anyone you want cash and don't open any type of cash registry because A. that's tacky AF and B. then they take 7-10% of your gifts! 
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  • Just don't register, it gets the point across and you avoid looking tacky and giving some unnecessary company a percentage of the $$ people were going to give you otherwise. It's not like before honeymoon registries people didn't understand cash was a good gift.

    No one will be confused. "Registering" for cash makes no sense, if people ask where you're registered you can say "oh we're not, we're just saving up for a vacation to the moon/a new jetski/an alpaca" and they'll figure it out.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot Atlanta
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    It's always rude to have a cash/honeymoon registry, no matter where you're getting married.

    If you don't want physical gifts, just don't register. If anyone asks, say "we have everything we need for the home, but we're saving up for X." If people want to give a gift, they'll put a check in a card or envelope. It's NBD, people have been giving cash for wedding since the dawn of weddings. People know it's a good gift, travels well, and that you'll use it. 
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  • MobKazMobKaz Chicago suburbs
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    Trust your gut and listen to the mixed reviews.  My guess is that the reviews that were "on the fence" were just concerned about giving their honest opinion. 

    Follow the advice given above!  Give yourself a "user friendly" name and stick around! 
  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    Don't register for gifts. People who want to give you cash can do so directly. A honeyfund is tacky regardless of whether the wedding is local or a DW.
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  • Do nothing. Don’t register, accept any gifts graciously, send thank you cards. People don’t need guidance on how to give you cash and no registry suggests you don’t need physical items. 
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