like most everyone on here my fiance is deployed, he is in afghanistan until june and we are getting married in august. Since he has been gone since mid november I have caught bronchitis, been spotting for a couple of weeks due to stress, and sprained my shoulder. Today I found out I failed a very important test I need to pass before I graduate to recieve my b.a. and my credential, I have NEVER been close to failing any test. Overall, I am so stressed out and sad that he is gone. I have been trying to exercise to help relieve my stress but then I injured my shoulder. I am trying to stay busy with friends and family but with the wedding planning going on and I am about to start student teaching I am having a really hard time not stressing out and becoming overwhelmed. The past few days I feel I have been doing nothing but crying. Does anyone have any advice of ideas to help me keep it all together?
Re: he's deployed...
Another thing to consider, if the stress becomes to much or you're not comfortable relying on a friend or family member, is seeing a counselor, or a pastor if you're religious. Sometimes a third party can be the best listener, and can give you really good advice and tools to manage the stress and overwhelming feelings. This is by no means a sign of weakness, and it is important in keeping you healthy.
I hope things are better for you soon. I've gone through stretches like this, where everything is completely overwhelming, but I promise, it will pass.
The last thing your H needs is for you to be depressed, making yourself sick and failing your classes. That won't do anything for his moral over there. He needs you to be strong and independant. He needs you to live your life and have great days that he can call home to hear about so he can stay focused on his mission over there.
Write him a letter every day. Send him a small package every week. Plan a special thing that you do to treat yourself once a month. Get a pedicure, a message, a girl's night out. Small things that you can look forward to will break up the larger amount of time. Get together with other people who have deployed SO's.
Right now, you are digging your self into a hole that is really hard to get out of. This is not healthy for you. If you feel you need to see a counselor, I think that could be a could thing for you. Talk to othr people. Know you are not alone. Try to see some good things about this trip over there. Think of how much closer you two can grow together. Think of the extra money y'all can put in savings.
You can do this!
I second what Tx. If your FI has to be worrying about your health and safety, it will be harder for him to make sure he's focused on the task at hand. Keep yourself busy and do things you enjoy.
I focused on finishing school, going to work, working out, and quilting. You will find things that work best for you.