So, I took a half day from work yesterday to go upstate with BF to go out on his old roommate's boat. Along for the ride were BF's friend's wife, and another young married couple. Not 5 minutes after we left the dock, BF's friend said to us "So, you guys getting a dog soon? Having a baby?" We laughed and I told him I wanted a puppy, but they we'd have to find a new apartment first.
Not long after that he said, in a non-joking manner, "So, you guys getting married soon?" BF and I just laughed and ignored his questions. Didn't deter him.
He continues, "Seriously [BF], I'll give you the name of the venue Meg & I checked out when we were looking at places. It was really nice and like $90 a head. You should check it out."
Bf and I didn't say anything, just kinda smiled. Finally, the awkward silence was killing me, so I said something along the lines of "Well, I got my bonus for the month so I think I can handle that." And just laughed. I hope he (and BF!!) understood that I was totally joking.
Still not done. Later in the afternoon he says to BF, again, "So really, when are you guys getting engaged?" BF said "Not yet....." and looked like he'd rather be anywhere else in the world. When his friend raised his eyebrows and smiled, BF said "Let me get a better-paying job first, okay?" And laughed, uncomfortably.
Argh. Sorry if this is a long and annoying post, but I wanted to share and see if anyone would have reacted differently (or better) than I did? It was so awkward for BF's friend to put him/us on the spot like that when we haven't discussed marriage in even the vaugest/jokiest of terms with each other. I do not want BF to think that I'm ready to be engaged yet, or that I'm waiting for him to pop the question, because I'm absolutely NOT.
I wanted to shake his friend and say "Listen buddy, just because you got your GF pregnant and then proposed to her on your 1 yr anniversary does NOT mean that the rest of us want to settle down so quickly." Grrr. People are rude.