my sister is a bridesmaid and is refusing to wear the color dress i want my bridesmaids to wear, so after putting up with her complaining about my engagement, being pisssed that i got engaged before her, straight out telling me that my fiance is an idiot for being in the military and taking a deployment in sept, that hes only marrying me for goverment money boost of having a dependant, and that im an idiot for marrying him, i told her that if she is so against my wedding and unwilling to cooperate then she doesnt have to be in the wedding party or even be at my wedding. i got engaged about two weeks before christmas and when we were at my parents house for xmas she refused to say anything to me except snide and snarky comments and giving me dirty looks the entire time. im just sick of it.