We originally eloped while out of state from most family and friends during a crisis. Due to the "life and death" nature of our situation, we realized time is too short to wait until we could manage a formal wedding to do the legal part, so we did. We even self-officiated, so there was literally nobody else there. One family member sent a monetary gift. It took over a year for it to get to all of our family and friends that we'd gotten married, and we still come across people that ask if we're 'actually' married. We then moved about 11 times in 3 years and have slowly settled, but with adding a kid and college, we are still on a lot of hand-me-downs in our apartment and missing a lot of life-starters.
Now, on our five year anniversary, we're doing a "reaffirmation" and "vow finalization" - actually doing vows with a minister and having the event we apparently offended a lot of people by skipping. While we're skimming out certain traditions like the bachelor party, is a registry appropriate here? Honestly, I just assumed no, but then I realized the etiquette can be a bit shady here, since we never had one in the first place, so it's not like a typical vow renewal or second wedding. I don't want to make it awkward for people who want to give gifts (which is a common thing, especially in my husband's family, who will probably bring gifts anyway), or for people who don't because there wasn't a registry.
Thanks in advance!