My parents have been going through a very ugly divorce for over 3 years. They absolutely HATE each other and bring my siblings and I into the middle of everything. Well every since we annouced out engagement my mother has went crazy mad. She wont stop talking about how she hates my father and is going to have a miserable time at my wedding, not only that but shes been trying to tell me NOT to invite my dad and his mom to the wedding and i should skip my father daughter dance. I've sat her down and explained to her that its NOT her wedding and i wont tolerate snarky remarks or gossip during my planning process or at my wedding.....she seems to listen for a second but then carries on! GRR!! Now she said shes throwing my a wedding shower but says my dads mom isnt allowed to come and i think thats unfair! Shes my grandma and its important that she shares this with me. Do I even have a say at who comes to my shower and who doesnt since my moms paying for it all?