I really like my future mother in law, no she's not perfect but I still like the woman...that is until today. She's the type of person who does not take no for an answer, and always gets her way and throws a fit if she doesn't. Originally my fiance and I, my parents and his agreed to a 140 person guest list. Now the guest list is 150 people. I never wanted a big wedding, I always wanted a destination wedding and I'm not getting that. In order to compromise I asked that everyone invited to the wedding was someone that knew both my fiance and I as a couple, I didn't want people that I don't know invited. His mother doesn't have a lot of family but is a very social person. She decided to invite numerous friends, many of which I do not know or have only met once or twice in the past 5 years. My family and his had a big sit down to discuss the guest list and cut people, she refused to cut anyone and instead pointed at her ex-husband to start cutting people, which he refused to do too (the majority of his list is family who we are close with). So I lost on cutting the guest list, no I'm not happy but I've put my big girl panties on and am dealing with it. Well today was the day that I was going to do the invitaitons, and his mother called and said that she HAS to add two more people! My fiance, who is currently away on a boys trip, told her she could invite them only if she cut two other people. She could not find anyone to cut and her ex-husband is refusing to cut anyone as well. She has spent all day sending me mean and low blow text messages stating that these guests HAVE to be invited. She keeps saying how it's not fair that she cannot have her friends at the wedding, when I explain that it is OUR wedding and not hers she throws a fit (I put it nicer than that of course). She is turning our wedding into a huge social event, and it's not longer about us as a couple. I tried to drop the subject but then she kept calling me. I finally answered the phone and she spent 5-10 minutes screaming at me, telling me that these people need to be invited, that some of her friend's husbands cannot go so these people should replace them, that she raised her son for over 20 years, telling me how I'm being selfish, etc. I kept saying I'm sorry but we cannot invite them, every time I tried to talk she interrupted me. Finally she screamed "I'm done with this wedding" and hung up on me, and that is were we left things. I'm miserable and my fiances miserable. I wish he would handle the situation but unfortuantley he hates confrontations and fights and will not tell her that she is wrong and will not say no to her, which of course makes me look like the bad guy. I do not know what to do. She has done nothing for this wedding, expect to keep trying to throw money at us which isn't the point, and expects that all of her drinking buddies should be invited. I have given in so much for this wedding and am so tired of it, I'm not giving in any more. I'd love to hear some advice because I really don't know what to do. As of now she is still invited to the wedding but we aren't sending any invites to her friends because she claimed she is done with the wedding and we cannot afford all of these people. I'm sorry this was so long but I'm really stressed and desperately need advice. Thanks!