and why don't they come here with these problems?
Dear Amy:
I started dating a woman in July of last year. After a month of seeing
each other, she was still having trouble detaching from her former
romantic partners.
I told her to wait until she was ready to date me. After almost a
month, she asked me to start a relationship. It was great until we found
out that she was pregnant. Ultimately she terminated the pregnancy, and
we continued to date.
At Christmas she informed me that she had cheated on me numerous
times with both of her ex-boyfriends. I was heartbroken but in love.
I forgave her under the condition that she stop communicating with
them. About a month later, she told me she couldn't handle not talking
to them but promised they were just friends.
For three months I thought we were in an exclusive relationship, but
two days ago she said we were just "friends with benefits" and that she
is starting to have feelings for someone else.
Should I listen to my heart and wait for her to realize that what we
had was important? Should I wait and hope that she comes back? Or should
I walk away and come to terms with the fact that she just doesn't want
me in her life. Please help. I'm in love and can't help it, and I'd love
your neutral opinion. — Concerned
