I'm planning the bachelorette party for my friend's wedding, even though I'm not the maid of honor. The maid of honor lives out of the country and won't even be coming, and another one of the bridesmaids can't make it either. Here's my question: even though they won't be coming, should they still pitch in and help? We are all young and pretty broke, and being the one that's planning, I know that by default, I'll end paying for more than other people. Also, what about the other girls attending that aren't in the bridal party? HELP!