Some days its just hard & I know what im getting myself into...
So, My FI fam hates me. Let me explain in the most fair way. My FI is a doc (some of u know that from my "God Willing" post...*high fives back at everyone I saw that response like 2days later). He came from single parent in NYC and somehow beat the odds and did well. I on the other hand, never graduated college and now just finished up an LPN coarse and am now back working on my RN now. I have 2 kids from a previous failed marriage (he was a cheating ____) and so, instead of choosing his "equal" he comes up with me.
All that is the unbiased reasoning for them feeling like he could have/should have done better. Or their reasoning that I MUST be a "gold digger".... I never went after this guy, he went after me. But, that is neither here nor there. The issue at hand currently is this. None of his family even know that we are getting married this August. His reasoning for this makes sense and I understand but, somedays its just difficult to know that fact.
His reasoning: He has 5months left of residency and he is not in the mood to deal with anyone calling him telling him that its a bad idea. He already knows he wants us to get married and he doesnt need the stress from them. His intent is to tell people the week of his graduation (Only about 6weeks before the wedding....smh). His attitude is that they will come if they want to be supportive. They won't if they dont.
I guess I have to respect his methods of dealing with them, they are his family. I certainly wouldnt want him telling me how to deal with mine. But, I guess I just dont understand it....
ETA: They are the type of Christians that dont believe in re-marriage so to them Im still married to my cheating ex (who is now married to some1 else)... I think that they believe this is a load of crap because there are a few men in their family who have remarried and NOT been sent out to pasture. Yet, they use this as a reason by "God" to not accept me