So, my boyfriend is starting to plan a trip to India (Hyderabad, Andhra Pradesh) in four/fve months.
I was raised as a lapsed Catholic, would classify myself as a spiritual agnostic. However, the idea of many gods appeals to me and so am starting to learn more about Hinduism and would possibly be willing to convert in the future.
I am very modern, outgoing, outspoken, amibitious, loud and don't take any crap from men. All qualities (well, except for ambitious) that don't look as if they would mesh with my boyfriend's family.
His sister had, she wanted it, an arranged marriage that turned into a love marriage. However, my guy's mother said he doesn't have to have one, he can marry who he wants, his wife should work and earn (which I will) and that will replace the dowry - which she doesn't want. Good signs, right?
He says he will teach me pooja before we go and that should make his mom very happy, since he doesn't pray. I am also a good houseguest - cooking, cleaning, existing quietly......
BUT what else should I be doing/knowing before stepping into his world?
I will be bringing them gifts, for our visit. I would also like to bring them Christmas gifts (since that is when we would most likely go) since my BF and I will be exchanging Xmas gifts.............do you think this would be viewed as if I think I am 'better' than their culture or do you think it would be looked at as if I am trying to share my culture with them, as thanks for sharing their culture with me?
But, what if I don't like Indian food - I hate spicy food! What to wear in the house, outside? Can I put on my iPod to let him talk to his parents since I am only starting to learn Telugu - would that be rude? Can I touch him at all in front of people?
Any advice would be welcomed! Thanks! :-)