Here's the backstory - I've been with my fiance for four years now. In those four years he has spoken to his father zero point zero times. We live in Nebraska and he lives in Texas, so it's not like he lives nearby either. My fiance swears up and down there is no bad blood between the two, they were just never that close. We did send him and his wife an Xmas card a couple years back and did get one in return, so we know where he lives at least (or, he lived there two years ago...).
We are getting married on Sept. 28. I suggested to FI that before we send them out, he should at least call his dad and let him know we're getting married, so he's not surprised when he gets the invite. It literally took me three weeks to convince him to do this. Finally, the big moment arrives. He dials the number and....disconnected! WTF. We sent out the invites in early July (I know, kinda early) and put a note in his dad's invite explaining that he tried to call him and asked him to call FI back. This was six weeks ago. We have not heard a word. No RSVP, no phone call, nothing.
The first thing I thought was "Well, he's dead." But when I Google his name and "obituary" or "died" or "dead", I get nothing. Plus, I would think if that was the case, the invite would have been sent back to us. And I can't imagine his wife would have made no effort to try and get a hold of FI. She seemed like a really nice lady when she sent the Xmas card.
I'm stumped! I feel so bad for my FI, but I think that this is bothering me more than it bothers him. I'd like to try and make one last effort to get a hold of him, but I don't know what to do. Any ideas?
Also, let's say that we do not hear from him. It would be perfectly acceptable to omit his name from the program and the newspaper announcement, right? Or no?