Am I being a Bridezilla?

lmac2582

Is it inappropriate to request that your 2 bridesmaids who are your sisters that are very light skinned to get spray tans? I have requested this and my sister refuses to even consider it and is offended I care so much about her skin tone. I love the sun and indoor tan year around please don't respond about that, that's not my question and they are wearing little black dresses. Am I being unreasonable?

ElleB87

Yes it's very inappropriate.  99% of people would be extremely offended by your request and you owe those sisters one hell of an apology

hmonkey

do you have any black or hispanic friends you could ask to be bridesmaids instead?

6fsn

You can request it and they can say no.  If you require it then you are being a bridezilla.

GBCK

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[QUOTE]Is it inappropriate to request that your 2 bridesmaids who are your sisters that are very light skinned to get spray tans? I have requested this and my sister refuses to even consider it and is offended I care so much about her skin tone. I love the sun and indoor tan year around please don't respond about that, that's not my question and they are wearing little black dresses. Am I being unreasonable?
Posted by lmac2582[/QUOTE]

<div>Yep, you're an incredibly inappropriate bridezilla on this one.</div><div>Completely unreasoanble.</div><div>
</div><div>Apologize and accept that some people don't think sunworshipping, fake bake or bathing in tang is the way they should look.</div>

MrsKathyC

You could have suggested it, and then paid for it.  But since you pretty much demanded it, and have offended your sister, you need to apologize and let it go!

tawillers

"bathing in tang" is the best thing I have ever read.

lmac2582

My sister tanned for all of her dances in high school, I didn't know it was so offensive to her now. I did also offer to pay for it she hasn't had to pay for anything for my wedding at all. I guess also to me it's no different than doing your hair and makeup for the event?

6fsn

Hair and makeup washes away.  It is very different.  Say you're sorry and move on from the subject.

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE]Is it inappropriate to request that your 2 bridesmaids who are your sisters that are very light skinned to get spray tans? I have requested this and my sister refuses to even consider it and is offended I care so much about her skin tone. I love the sun and indoor tan year around please don't respond about that, that's not my question and they are wearing little black dresses. Am I being unreasonable?
Posted by lmac2582[/QUOTE]

yes it is inappropriate, and you're probably going to get skin cancer and look like this:
 
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by the time you're 40.

MinM

Would you ask someone to color their hair? This is on that level and I would be pissed if anyone asked me to do this....I am pale and that is that. This is like asking someone to lose weight. "Gosh, stop being so fat and pale for my wedding!"

lmac2582

I did not join this forum to be judged, I thought this was where brides could ask for advice, somewhere we would be understood and have non biased opinions to keep us in order. If you don't want to help with at least constructive criticism then don't reply.

Wzz

yes, it is innapropriate.

choose a different color bridesmaid. hth

**O-Face**

You posed a question, several answered.  There you go.

hmonkey

[QUOTE]<strong>I did not join this forum to be judged,</strong> I thought this was where brides could ask for advice, somewhere we would be understood and have non biased opinions to keep us in order. If you don't want to help with at least constructive criticism then don't reply.
Posted by lmac2582[/QUOTE]

then why is your question, "am i being a bridezilla?"

WHY NO UNDERSTAND ENGLISH AS SHE IS SPOKEN

Wzz

so you can say offensive things to your sisteer about her skin color, but no one here can say offensive things to you that your request is riDAMNdiculous? mud.

or you are just a a big fat hypocrite.

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE]I did not join this forum to be judged, I thought this was where brides could ask for advice, somewhere we would be understood and have<strong> non biased opinions</strong> to keep us in order. If you don't want to help with at least constructive criticism then don't reply.
Posted by lmac2582[/QUOTE]

that doesn't mean what you think it means. does not compute.
<div class="header"><h2 class="me">bias</h2></div><div class="body"><div class="pbk"><div class="luna-Ent"><span class="dnindex"><span><span>2.</span> </span></span><span><span>a</span> <span>particular</span> <span>tendency</span> <span>or</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">inclination,</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">especially</span> <span>one</span> <span>that</span> <span>prevents</span> <span>unprejudiced</span> <span>consideration</span> <span>of</span> <span>a</span> <span style="color:#0055bb;cursor:pointer;">question;</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">prejudice

<div class="header"><h2 class="me">opinion</h2></div><div class="body"><div class="pbk"><div class="luna-Ent"><span class="dnindex"><span><span>1.</span> </span></span><span><span>a</span> <span>belief</span> <span>or</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">judgment</span> <span>that</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">rests</span> <span>on</span> <span>grounds</span> <span>insufficient</span> <span>to</span> <span>produce</span> <span>complete</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">certainty.</span> </span></div><div class="luna-Ent"><span class="dnindex"><span><span>2.</span> </span></span><span><span>a</span> <span>personal</span> <span>view,</span> <span>attitude,</span> <span>or</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">appraisal.</span>
</span></div></div></div></span></span></div></div></div>

MinM

Let me guess, constructive criticsm = no, you are not wrong at all?

loveshine1

Listen, you can make the suggestion and offer to pay for it.

What you cannot do is demand that your bridesmaids do anything other than wear whatever polyester garbage bag you've selected for them and stand next to you on your wedding day.

*Barbie*

this is the bridesmaid look you are going for?

jnjmommy0609

You can't come here and say "Am I being a bridezilla" then expect people to not judge you. That isn't how it works. Bottom line is if you offended her you apologize and then drop it. 

mrsconn23

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[QUOTE]"bathing in tang" is the best thing I have ever read.
Posted by tawillers[/QUOTE]

Yes.

thejucheidea

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[QUOTE]My sister tanned for all of her dances in high school, I didn't know it was so offensive to her now.
Posted by lmac2582[/QUOTE]

Because she's older now and realizes that even spray tan is a carcinogen? It's her body, not yours, so she can say she won't do something to it and doesn't have to give you a reason for denying your request.