So I really haven't been to many weddings but I have been to both bridal showers and jack and jills before. Our best man was talking about planning the jack and jill, and then yesterday my maid of honor was talking about planning a bridal shower. from what I understand bridal showers are when you register for gifts and all the women that are coming to the wedding come to the bridal shower and give you gifts like housewares and stuff like that, and a Jack and Jill is co-ed and guests pay to come and there are raffles and stuff that people spend money on and the purpose is to help the couple pay for the wedding. I thought it was a little strange to ask guests to help raise money for the wedding AND give a gift. Are you supposed to have both or one or the other. my maid of honor said that people don't really do jack and jills very often and they are kind of tacky but I have been to more jack and jills than showers and I thought they were fun, I have no problem spending money to help friends/relatives. My fiance thinks that guests go to the Jack and Jill AND bring gifts to the actual wedding. Which I have done before as well but I feel like that's a lot to ask. I was thinking it might be fine to have a bridal shower for older family and a jack and jill for friends and younger cousins etc. since the j&j will have a bar and DJ etc. is that okay?