From the moment we were engaged my FI and I knew we wanted a small wedding - ideally around 50 people. We were very clear with both of our families that only immediately famly and close friends would be invited. We selected a more expensive venue becuase we loved it and with the smaller guest list it was well within our budget.
We finalized our guest list in December and shared it with our families. At that time my FMIL provided us with a list of 50 people who 'had to be invited' only 15 or so of them were on our list. We made it clear that we wanted something small and only those 15 people were invited. These are the 15 family members we have seen in the past 3 years.
Fast forward to this week and invitaitons have been sent. She called me and rattled off a bunch of names of people who were coming. I was in car and didn't have the invite list in front of me to cross check so, she said she would email me the info. The email arrived today and only 3 people who 'are coming' were sent an invitation. There are 8 people on the list who were not invited who according to her 'are coming'. (While I would never even think of attending a wedding for which I wasn't invited to, I don't think they care.)
My FI says, "I'll talk to her" but she's clearly not listening. My FI has never stood up to his parents and I'm afraid this will just let her think that this behavior will continue throuhgout our married life.
My family says just tell her NO! They were at the same meeting she was where we said who was invited and who wasn't. Any ideas on how I should handle this? Do we just give in and invite them? Or hold firm and tell her she was out of line to invite them?