I want to apologize in advance if I come off as a total b**** here.
My DH's best friend, R, recently got engaged to his girlfriend of 7 years. Neither DH nor I can stand this woman (and yes, we've /tried/ to like her) - R knows this, he's less than happy about it, but accepts it - we try not to make a big deal about it, and we're always civil to her.
My problem is this: she genuinely believes I'm her friend and I'm terrified that she'll ask me to be a bridesmaid (which is unconscionable to me) and I have no idea how to refuse if she does. Given what I know of the budget for the wedding, saying that can't afford it would be easily seen as a lie.....
I'd like to think I'm being paranoid and that it's unlikely she'll ask me, but since I can't even really understand how her brain works to make her think we're friends, I honestly don't know what she might or might not do, and I'd rather be prepared for the worst (with a polite refusal) and be wrong than believe she won't ask and get caught wrong-footed if she does.