I am getting married next May and I have most of the details worked out in my head now we are finalizing everything. My mom insists that her friend(who will also be a guest) makes the food for the 200+ guest list. The reception venue does not have a kitchen, because it is a state park indoor/outdoor pavilion. She wants her friend to make everything a day or two in advance and heat it up the day of.
I have a issue with this for two reasons
1. I don"t want ANYONE to cook or bake ANYTHING for the wedding not even a guest!! (my sister made over 600 cupcakes for her own wedding the week of....cupcakes were great but it wasn't worth the stress)
2. I don't want old food that is just heated up. I want fresh, straight from the kitchen food.
Is that too crazy of me to ask that we just get a caterer? I am fine with drop-off buffet style food, because it is much cheaper than full service catering. And I have told her a million times that I don't want anyone cooking...and she argues with me every time.
I also have another issue with my dress. I tried on dresses at two different bridal salons, about 20 dresses total. I finally found a dress i fell in love with it has a beautiful one shoulder detail with flowers. I love it!! We put down a $100 deposit but wanted to go back to get fitted in a few weeks after I get back down to my pre-baby weight(I have a six month old) So today my mom shows me a dress she found on ebay for $150 dollars..thats a great deal because the one I picked is $850. okay not so bad right?? Well the dress is not the same...not really even close. It is strapless with no shoulder detail at all, and it is a totally different fit(more of a tight mermaid, not fit and flare like the one I picked)
My mom insists that we can add the details to make it exactly the same. Mind you she is no fashion designer, she has added stones and beads to pageant dresses for my little sisters, but not reconstruction. I am just so frustrated because I finally picked a dress and now she wants to change it. I have had lots of problems with dress commitment in the first place. I kept switching the style of dress I wanted anyway so now that I found one I love I just want to order it and be done!!
She keeps talking about the budget and how if we cut costs on food and now this ebay dress then it will be easier to afford it.....the thing is my fiance and I plan on helping pay for the wedding, I also have a great god mother who wants to help and my future mother in law too. But she keeps insisting that it is her responsibility to pay for the whole thing and she gets offended when others want to help!
I don't know what to do anymore..I'm getting ready to take my fiance and our baby and head to the courthouse! UUUGHHHHH