My fiance and I have decided to have our dog be our ring bearer. He was part of the proposal and he is like our baby so it holds special significance and meaning to us to have him be our ring bearer. It's also part of what will make our wedding represent us.
Our dog is a German shepherd and currently 10 months old. He will be 1 1/2 year at the time of the wedding. He's very content and well trained. So training him to walk down the aisle is not an issue for us.
Now here comes the issue and reason for my post.
Before getting engaged and before our dog came into the picture, it was always the assumption the my best friend's son (who is 3) would be my ring bearer. This is the same as the assumption that my best friend would be my MOH. I was her MOH in her wedding and now she is my MOH :-)
Her and I have never actually discussed the topic of her son being our ring bearer. I think it was always just an assumption because my best friend and I have been best friends for 20 years now and needless to say are like sisters.
And I had also never really discussed with my FI the topic of her son possibly being our ring bearer. I guess it just wasn't one of the wedding topics we discussed (prior to getting engaged).
Well, now that we are engaged and have our baby (dog) and have been planning the wedding, we have decided that it would be very fitting and something we really want, to have our dog be our ring bearer.
The other night this topic came up between my FI and I and I suggested the idea of my best friends son also being a ring bearer, along side with our dog. So basically an idea of having 2 ring bearers but still have our dog be the focused or main ring bearer.
Well, FI wasn't having this at all. He is completely against the idea of having her son be a ring bearer at all.
The reason is for 1) him and my best friend aren't fond of each other to begin with (long story behind that), and for 2) the other reason is that my FI just doesn't feel any sort of bond to her son. When it comes to my little niece (who is one of our flower girls, he does feel a bond with her because my niece has gotten to know him through many family functions and they've had many opportunities to become close and for my niece to come to know who he is.
My best friend, however, she lives in different state and whenever she would come in town and her son would be around myself and my FI, there just was never that bond taking place between her son and FI.
Also, my FI has never really bonded with little kids to begin with. He's just one of those types that bonds more with older kids (like 8 and up).
The main kids that he is close with are his own niece, my little niece and my older nephews.
So, long story short, he's not comfortable with having her son be a ring bearer or not even a secondary ring bearer.
Him and I are definitely on the same page about our dog being THE ring bearer. I definitely want that for our wedding!
I just had the thought that maybe her son could be a secondary ring bearer, but like I said FI isn't cool with that at all.
So....My best friend knows that we are thinking of having our dog be our ring bearer because I post things on my wedding board on Pinterest that display all those ideas.
However, I haven't officially told her definitively that her son will not be our ring bearer or not even a secondary ring bearer.
I've always been the type of person that hates disappointing loved ones.
So hopefully she doesn't take it to heart and doesn't react bad to it.
Just wanted to get other brides/bridesmaids views on this type of topic.