So, at first my FI and I were planning on having a large wedding. We were going to wait a few years to save up the money so we could afford a nice large wedding on our own. Then, out of the blue, my FI is like well, why not just elope? I mean do you really care about the show, the getting dressed up? Really a marriage isn't as much about you as it is entertaining everybody else. I completely agreed. So, we decided we were going to do a wedding our way. We were going to get dressed up (because that's something I'd miss out of a wedding, plus I already purchased a dress) but we were just going to go to a small chapel and elope, with only a photographer and witnesses. Then we would run around town dressed to the nines to take pictures (because being dressed up so much and running around seems fun to me for whatever reason, probably more fun that getting dressed up to go to a big wedding). Then we were going to host a dinner with family and friends to let everybody know that we got married, and to celebrate.
Well now he wants to invite people to the ceremony. His parents, who don't get along. He wants to invite both of them, and they both don't particularly like me. We get along, but they are very passive aggressive people. And I know that they will slow the whole thing down (especially his mom) because they're going to want to get their own pictures with us. I am very close with my mother, like we are best friends. We never went though an "I-hate-you" stage. We've also been very close, but I'm not even inviting her to the ceremony! He isn't even that close to his parents, and he thinks they both should be allowed to come, to a ceremony which was supposed to be completely private.
UUUGGGHHH! What to do? I just don't want the drama that will come with them being there. Should I just hope for the best and let them come (since he already pretty much told them to go ahead and show up) or should I remind him the whole reason we were eloping?