I have a bridal shower dilemma and need some advice. My FI and I are having 2 wedding celebrations. We are having a small ceremony and reception in a neighboring state, and then having a marriage blessing (followed by a casual reception) at my mother's church (nearer to where we live) a couple weeks later. The guest lists for the two events will be separate other than our immediate families. My mom wants to throw me a shower and wants to include the people who are coming to the blessing but not the wedding. It seems weird to me to have a shower including people that are only invited to the blessing. I'm not sure if I should have a shower that includes both groups, separate showers for the twho events, or a shower for only the people who are coming to the wedding. The last option is the one that makes the most sense to me, but not to my mom. To throw another wrench in this, my mom also doesn't want to have to pay for "her" shower by herself and wants my bridesmaids (who would be invited) to contribute. Thoughts?