My wedding is in 2 weeks. Yay!! but.. One of my bridesmaids has now decided that she wants to bring her boyfriend. It wouldn't be a problem, but we've already given our venue the final head count. She's now saying that if he can't come she doesn't have a ride, but when I offered to pick her up she was like "no, I have work and stuff". Personally, I hate Hate HATE her boyfriend. He's controlling and abusive and I know that him trying to weasel his way into my wedding is just another control tactic for him. FI and I both hate him. He wants to wear his uniform even though FI and I decided that we wanted FI to be the only one there in uniform. He wanted to wear jeans with holes in them!!! Hello!! This is not a back yard bbq!! This is my wedding! in a nice hotel, where everyone else is wearing suits and nice dresses, and this douche bag wants to wear holey jeans!! I asked her before I sent out invites, if she wanted him to come with her, and she said "No, we probably will break up before your wedding anyway". Now, after everything she's saying, I want him there. I don't know what to do!!! Do I say no, He can't come and risk ruining my friendship and being short a bridesmaid? Do I say sure! he can come, there just won't be a plate for him at dinner. Maybe if he were a nicer guy, I would be more willing to work things to have him as a guest, but I just can't stand him. FI says whatever, if she was really a friend she would understand and she wouldn't try to put me in this position. I just don't know how to handle this situation. Help!!