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What rule did you break?

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  • hoffsehoffse
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    I didn't think that wearing a tux before 5 was an etiquette rule. I thought it was more of a fashion thing. Maybe?
    Posted by pokepoke27
    Nope it's an etiquette rule - no tuxes before 6.
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    I didn't think that wearing a tux before 5 was an etiquette rule. I thought it was more of a fashion thing. Maybe?
    Posted by pokepoke27
    Nope, it IS an etiquette rule.  A very old fashioned one, but it is. 

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    I didn't think that wearing a tux before 5 was an etiquette rule. I thought it was more of a fashion thing. Maybe?
    Posted by pokepoke27
    You aren't supposed to wear them for parties starting before six. Because I did not go all bridezilla on my H and force him to wear what I wanted him to wear (and thus throwing off my entire color scheme), he wanted to wear a tuxedo for our wedding. The ceremony was at five, and the reception at six. He also refused to wear a cummerbund and wanted the GM to wear colored vests. Undecided
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    I didn't think that wearing a tux before 5 was an etiquette rule. I thought it was more of a fashion thing. Maybe?
    Posted by pokepoke27
    I've seen it in "etiquette" books, but I put that squarely in the tradition/fashion camp. If it has no effect on the enjoyment of your guests, I couldn't really care less. Well, I might still think you're a rube based on fashion choices, but I'm not going to remember it long after the event. Unless it's camo. I feel like I'd definitely remember that.
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  • Huh. Well, my ceremony was at 6 and all the GMs and even H wore a suit. Is that another etiquette rule I broke? Or is it okay because it wasn't super formal? 
  • The purpose of a shower is to help a couple start their life together. Living together kind of means you already have started your lives together. Just giving the explanation. Also, you can not be sure as hell you are having a shower because someone else has to offer.
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    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I've seen it in "etiquette" books, but I put that squarely in the tradition/fashion camp. If it has no effect on the enjoyment of your guests, I couldn't really care less. Well, I might still think you're a rube based on fashion choices, but I'm not going to remember it long after the event. Unless it's camo. I feel like I'd definitely remember that.
    Posted by aragx6
    I've seen a camo wedding dress. True story.
  • A suit is fine. Tuxedos are never required, unless you're attending a black tie event.
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  • hoffsehoffse
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    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I've seen it in "etiquette" books, but I put that squarely in the tradition/fashion camp. If it has no effect on the enjoyment of your guests, I couldn't really care less. Well, I might still think you're a rube based on fashion choices, but I'm not going to remember it long after the event. Unless it's camo. I feel like I'd definitely remember that.
    Posted by aragx6
    I think the reason it technically falls under etiquette is that you're really only supposed to have them for black tie events after 6 pm... and then all the men are supposed to wear them, guests included.  So the idea is that if the wedding party dresses black tie and the guests don't, then the guests might feel underdressed, which can make them feel awkward.  Obviously, many people expect the wedding party to wear tuxes and the rest of the guests to not, but I think that's the origin.
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    Huh. Well, my ceremony was at 6 and all the GMs and even H wore a suit. Is that another etiquette rule I broke? Or is it okay because it wasn't super formal? 
    Posted by pokepoke27
    You should not have had a less than super formal wedding with a ceremony at 6.  Technically.

    But who the fuuuck really cares?  Like the PP said, it has no effect  on the comfort of guests, so meh.

    We wore tuxes (we?  I did not wear a tux) for our 3pm ceremony--because they were far easier and cheaper than suits.

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    In Response to Re: What rule did you break?:I didn't think that wearing a tux before 5 was an etiquette rule. I thought it was more of a fashion thing. Maybe?Posted by pokepoke27Nope it's an etiquette rule no tuxes before 6. Posted by hoffse
    H just wanted to wear a tux for his wedding so I stopped arguing with him about it.
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  • hoffsehoffse
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    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : You should not have had a less than super formal wedding with a ceremony at 6.  Technically. But who the fuuuck really cares?  Like the PP said, it has no effect  on the comfort of guests, so meh. We wore tuxes (we?  I did not wear a tux) for our 3pm ceremony--because they were far easier and cheaper than suits.
    Posted by J&K10910
    No actually you can - you can have a casual wedding any time of the day.  But if you have a formal wedding before 6 pm the men are supposed to wear morning dress, after 6 pm tuxes.  For casual weddings, suits are fine any time of the day... or so says Amy Vanderbilt.  She's dead, though, so who really knows?
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    The purpose of a shower is to help a couple start their life together. Living together kind of means you already have started your lives together. Just giving the explanation. Also, you can not be sure as hell you are having a shower because someone else has to offer.
    Posted by HandBanana

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    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : Not sure, but we've been living together for seven years and I'm sure as shiitt having a shower (I mean, since someone offered to throw me one that is)
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  • In Response to Re: What rule did you break?:
    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : No actually you can - you can have a casual wedding any time of the day.  But if you have a formal wedding before 6 pm the men are supposed to wear morning dress, after 6 pm tuxes.  For casual weddings, suits are fine any time of the day... or so says Amy Vanderbilt.  She's dead, though, so who really knows?
    Posted by hoffse
    Oh, huh.  Learn something new every day!

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    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : You should not have had a less than super formal wedding with a ceremony at 6.  Technically. But who the fuuuck really cares?  Like the PP said, it has no effect  on the comfort of guests, so meh. We wore tuxes (we?  I did not wear a tux) for our 3pm ceremony--because they were far easier and cheaper than suits.
    Posted by J&K10910
    That's why I assumed it wasn't actually an etiquette rule. But like you said - who cares? Obviously I didn't lol. 
  • J&K10910J&K10910
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    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : That's dumb.  I would have been pissed if I got a free drink at cocktail hour and then went back for a refill at dinner and had to pay.
    Posted by EaglesBride2012
    Maybe you shouldn't drink so much, lush.

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    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : That's dumb.  I would have been pissed if I got a free drink at cocktail hour and then went back for a refill at dinner and had to pay.
    Posted by EaglesBride2012

    Agreed. 
  • amyb140amyb140
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    I used labels with my address for the RSVP cards - for some reason 123 Print wouldn't print the address on the front.  By that point everything else was designed and they were a great price, so clear labels it was.

    My big one was that I asked my parents for money.  Whatever.  They wanted to help, but would have had no clue what I needed help with since they don't live here and weren't helping me plan.

    ETA:  I gave my BMs earrings to wear at the wedding as their gift.  I had never heard the rule about not doing that until TK - I have gotten the same thing for every wedding I've been in.  They were all custom made to match their different dresses by a friend who's a jeweler, so maybe that counts for something?
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  • aragx6aragx6
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    Posted by brandichamberlain
    Thanks. The reading comprehension from some people is quite sketch, eh?
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  • Suits were actually cheaper for us because everyone already owned one. Except H, but now he does so that's good. BIL bought a new suit for the wedding because his is starting to get kind of worn out. He also bought it too small ON PURPOSE. He thought he'd lose weight before the wedding.
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    Suits were actually cheaper for us because everyone already owned one. Except H, but now he does so that's good. BIL bought a new suit for the wedding because his is starting to get kind of worn out. He also bought it too small ON PURPOSE. He thought he'd lose weight before the wedding. Posted by pokepoke27
    OMG he is that BM that swears she going to be a 6 before the wedding, orders a 6, and has to rush order a new dress 2 weeks before the wedding.
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    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : Nope, it IS an etiquette rule.  A very old fashioned one, but it is. 
    Posted by J&K10910
    Whoops. Didn't know this one. I bet that really hacks off the tux rental people. Guess that one's getting broken, too. 
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  • Some might say we are having a tiered reception. We're having a private ceremony with 12 guests on 10/4 followed by a dinner reception with those same 12 guests. Then on 10/6 we're having a cocktail party to celebrate the wedding with our friends and family that are not coming to the ceremony.
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    Some might say we are having a tiered reception. We're having a private ceremony with 12 guests on 10/4 followed by a dinner reception with those same 12 guests. Then on 10/6 we're having a cocktail party to celebrate the wedding with our friends and family that are not coming to the ceremony.
    Posted by GuebaraGirl
    Yup, that's a pretty huge rule break. 

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    In Response to Re:What rule did you break?: OMG he is that BM that swears she going to be a 6 before the wedding, orders a 6, and has to rush order a new dress 2 weeks before the wedding.
    Posted by HandBanana
    Yeah, except he bought the suit three weeks before the wedding. And didn't even try it on again until the day of the wedding. Which is why his jacket didn't button : )
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    Suits were actually cheaper for us because everyone already owned one. Except H, but now he does so that's good. BIL bought a new suit for the wedding because his is starting to get kind of worn out. He also bought it too small ON PURPOSE. He thought he'd lose weight before the wedding.
    Posted by pokepoke27
    We did suits for this reason as well, everyone including H already had one so it seemed easier. I bought the ties for H and the GM and my grandfather.
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  • In Response to Re: What rule did you break?:
    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : We did suits for this reason as well, everyone including H already had one so it seemed easier. I bought the ties for H and the GM and my grandfather.
    Posted by mari0225
    I bought ties for all the guys in my WP too. 
  • In Response to Re: What rule did you break?:
    In Response to Re: What rule did you break? : I bought ties for all the guys in my WP too. 
    Posted by pokepoke27
    Yeah it just seemed like the way to go, so they would all match.
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  • So out of curiosity, I looked up formal morning or day dress. Hmmm. Interesting. 

    So then what if the party continues well into the evening? 
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    So out of curiosity, I looked up formal morning or day dress. Hmmm. Interesting.  So then what if the party continues well into the evening? 
    Posted by willywally5
    I believe it is determined by ceremony start time, so how late the reception goes has no bearing.

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