I have 4 bridesmaides and the wedding is in the fall. Originally I wanted my girls to not be clones so I let them choose whatever dress they wanted as long is it was the same color. A friend suggested to not do that, they should all be one length short or long so it's not all choppy. So then I thought to go for all long dresses. I brought it up and 3 out of the 4 were happy with it. The fourth one, really wants a short one. Long story short my MOH said it's rude that she won't bend, and another one of the bridesmaides agreed. The third one is doesn't care what she wears. I finally decided, let's go with 2 in long and 2 in short, in honoring my 4th bc she is the only one that is flying out, making a reservation, and she let me know is financially strapped on dress budget (I respect that). Im happy with what I decided, but I've been cornered twice about how it's going to look bad in pics with people being different, while I am absolutely fine with the whole thing! So as my heading suggests, am I being too lenient or should I say who gives a damn!?