Take a look at the "relationships" board over at the nest. There are some pretty sad things going on right now. A wedding band is not a magic band of metal that fixes everyone's personality flaws. If you see red flags during the relationship before marriage, don't let it slide because you deserve so much better than to be unhappy just to keep a fantasy of a husband, two kids, a dog, and a house with a white picket fence. I know sometimes I get caught up with the whole "I can't wait for the proposal because I can't wait to be his wife and wel will live happily ever after." I come from a family where people do not stay married and most people get divorced. looking at the aftermath some of them could have been different situations had people really got beyond the emotions of the fantasy and saw people for who they really were because not many people just change all of a sudden. So... becareful what you ask for, keep your eyes open, and don't sell yourself short. I know I will definitely be paying more attention because I would much rather call off an engagement han have to get a divorce.