We have had major issues with my FMIL and have tried to discuss them but that blew up and became nasty really quickly. The short but sweet version: I can't do anything right, I never do enough-not good enough, she's pissed when something's not all about her even if it's not her celebration, my family is dirt and should be treated as such, she's mad because my dad will be getting more attention than her at the wedding because he'll be walking me down the aisle and having the father-daughter dance (she'll be getting her mother-son dance), it's her way or well her way and if not then everyone is controlling (including some wedding things; she's declared that if we don't do X then she won't come a couple of times), stuff like this. I can give examples if you want but I am trying to keep this short. I have been nothing but nice to her until this blow up, seriously. She is this way to all the females in the family (they are all in-laws; she's used to being the alpha dog) but especially her sons SO's. She only has 2 boys; mines the oldest- his brother is divorced so this isn't the first wedding for her.I get there's a lot of issues but I don't know how to go about this: my FI wants us to sit down with her again and go over some things. I'm not really looking forward to this. She's really good at twisting words (she'll say I said such and such when it was really her), yelling, interrupting and calling me names. If we do sit down and she starts this, I will be leaving the conversation and my FI knows this. I've read many times on this board "His family, his problem" but at the same time I would like to be there to support him and be united but I feel it would be better if I wasn't there.When you've had to have discussions with your kids, do you prefer it to just be the two of you or would you take offense to their SO being there as well. I feel if I am there, then I'll get most of the blame, which would happen regardless if I am there but I'm just tired of dealing with her at this point.Thanks gals!