(frequent stalker, rare poster)
So I have been having this internal battle with myself for quite sometime and am just now trying to put my frustrated/angry/hurt feelings into words...
My brother got married to his fiancee 6 months before deploying by a JOP (Nov 09) - our family did not find out until March 2010, after we went dress shopping with her. She is still planning her "real" wedding for May 2011 (yes, />1.5 years after she has been officially married).
I also know she has changed her name to my family's name - a plane ticket came to my parents house in this way and is actually how we all found out they were married.
When I sent her my STD I addressed it appropriately (Mrs. myfamilyslastname) and she actually went up to my mom and told her that she still goes by her maiden name and that she wants to continue to keep their marriage a secret.
I have confronted my brother on the issue before he deployed and he said that he wanted to get married so that she could get his full SGLI benefits should, God-forbid, something happened (fine, I get that.). He says they were not "really" married because God wasn't present (apparently he stops at courts doors...).
My question is how would you handle this situation? Am I in the wrong for being very much pissed/angry/upset/frustrated?
CN: Brother got married in Nov 09, planning big fancy "real" wedding >1.5 yrs after the fact (May11), wife refuses to admit that they are actually married and has kept it secret from everyone...
Thanks for helping
I posted on the E board as well but need some Christian-centered advice and a lot of prayers as for some reason I just can't let this go..
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