So I've been having a horrible time deciding what I want to do. I want a bbq buffet since our wedding will be very informal and I love bbq. My FI is originally from TX and his family has perfected the art of smoking meat so I like the idea of giving my CO family a taste of real TX bbq. His family already said they would be happy to do it, but I feel bad because I want them to be able to enjoy the wedding instead of "working" it. On the other hand they really enjoy cooking and have a good time no matter what so to them I guess it would be fine? I did find a caterer who will bring the food and take it back for under $1000. Is this worth having the caterer or could it be significantly cheaper to have family prepare the food?