So I would like some advice on how to handle my CURRENT FMIL issue. My fiance and I have been discussing where we would like our rehearsal dinner (he's out of the country for work so I'm doing much of it on my own). During my research for the perfect place, I receive an email from the wedding coordinator at our venue that my FMIL has contacted them on her own and BOOKED the same venue for our rehearsal dinner without even telling us! My fiance told her this was not OK and that we had our eye on other places, since clearly the reception is going to be at the same place and we didn't want that. She has offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner which is great, but in her world, that means she can decide everything without asking us if it's ok. I feel like this is just not how it's supposed to go! WE are getting married - now I'm stuck having to deal with the whole situation on telling her where we have chosen to have it. Help me please on how to deal with this!!!! PS - She lives in Pittsburgh so I thought she'd trust me on this one....