The day after I got engaged, my fiancé’s sister (H) started talking about her daughter (15mo now) being our flower girl. I told her that we weren’t going to have one. Her response: “You have to have flower girls.” Well, no, I don’t. I don’t want them, never have. The only way that I would have a flower girl is just for spite, and pick my god-daughter who will be almost 5, or one of my 3 nieces.
My fiancé supports my decision; he says it’s my day. We can do whatever and be wherever.
H asked her husband’s sister if her daughter would be able to be a flower girl at her wedding. “We’ll just have to count on aunt so-and-so to make it happen for you.” Also H says that she is getting her daughter a frilly flower girl type dress to wear anyway.
H says that we are just weird because of the things we want and don’t want in our wedding. She had her wedding, BUTT OUT OF MINE!
We’ve been engaged about year, are still a year away from our wedding day, and I’m about ready to snap. I’m the kind of person who tries to keep the peace, but am starting to find it very hard to do so.
I have a feeling if H says anything to me about it again I’ll just tell her that if she has a problem with the wedding then she doesn’t need to come. I don’t know what my fiance would say about this, but it’s really more to make a point.
Any suggestions for my situation? Anything will be appreciated!