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We are a gay male couple who is getting married march 31, 2012.  obviously we have time, but I;m starting to think about things.  How have others handled the mother/son dance.  Do you both do it at the same time, or have two separate dances? 

ALso what have others used as alternatives for the garter toss, since obviously there wont be one of those!  I wouldnt care if we did nothing, but I dont want people to miss it.
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    chrmunchrmun member
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    edited December 2011
    We're skipping a bunch of traditional wedding stuff. We're going to do a first dance, but not mother/son. Also skipping the garter toss. We're also trying to figure out how we're getting to the altar. Not really into the idea of a big processional and nobody's getting 'given away'. At the same time, we want to have enough opportunity to build the drama and make people cry.
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    In general, the more "spotlight" dances there are, the more people get bored. For that reason,  I would suggest having both mother-son dances at the same time, just as I would suggest straight couples have the father-daughter dance at the same time as the mother-son dance.  Actually, I'm just amused that you think you both have to have mother-son dances, as opposed to, say, father-son dances.

    As for the garters, my wife and I didn't do the garter toss (or the bouquet toss) at all.  However, if you want to do a garter toss, there are garters for men.  Here is a link to some on Amazon.
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    K&J64K&J64 member
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    edited December 2011
    We skipped the garter and bouquet tosses. We each had a separate dance with out dad's after our dance with each other. We had the DJ fade out the songs with our dads at around 2 minutes so it wasn't too long. I danced with my dad to Joe Cocker's "You Are So Beautiful" (his choice) and my wife danced with her dad to a traditional Italian father/daughter song called "Lauretta". Lots of tears during both dances from our guests.

    We did a traditional processional had our two best men walk first w/ our ring bearer then our bridesmaids single file followed by our maids of honor. Then I was escorted down the aisle by both my parents and then my wife by both her parents. If you'd rather not have the whole big processional perhaps the two of you could walk down the aisle together, or meet from opposite sides of the ceremony venue and then walk down, or meet each at the alter and skip the aisle all together.

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    chrmunchrmun member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_gay-weddings_dances?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:44Discussion:98860f2a-52b5-4810-abad-79dde7e0bcefPost:4908fe58-6266-44fe-803d-c0584244b403">Re: dances?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In general, the more "spotlight" dances there are, the more people get bored. For that reason,  I would suggest having both mother-son dances at the same time, just as I would suggest straight couples have the father-daughter dance at the same time as the mother-son dance.  <strong>Actually, I'm just amused that you think you both have to have mother-son dances, as opposed to, say, father-son dances.</strong> As for the garters, my wife and I didn't do the garter toss (or the bouquet toss) at all.  However, if you want to do a garter toss, there are garters for men.  Here is a link to some on Amazon .
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    What song did you choose for your mother-daughter dances?
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