My fiance and I have talked about getting married before the actual wedding. We feel that we would both enjoy our wedding and celebrations if we didn't have to worry so much about the marriage. We also feel that the marriage is for us, and the wedding is for our family and friends.
This is something we talked about doing in private, but decided against that as it can eventually get out and lead to bad feelings towards the both of us from both sides. While he was talking with his mother a couple of weeks ago, telling her our feelings towards the wedding she suggested we do just that.
But, now I'm having second thoughts. Even if we get support from both sides (we plan to keep it between parents, and maybe the grandparents if needed) would this be a good idea? I'm not sure, I need some outside opinion, unbiased opinions.