My FI and I are having a very small private ceremony and then a small dinner reception here in Massachusetts and in August we are having a bigger post reception for friends and family in Texas who will not be attending the ceremony here. We have wedding announcements which does not state we are having a reception of any kind but only certain people will be getting reception invitations included in both locations which will include where we are registered. We do not expect gifts from anyone at all but what do I do if someone who doesn't get an invite asks if we are registered and where? I would feel terrible knowing myself they were not invited to any function at all and they are wanting to get us something thinking we didn't have a reception.
Should I just tell them that we aren't registered so they aren't offended? What if they ask why we didn't include that information in the first place, what do I say?
I just think it would be rude to accept a gift when they were not invited to anything.