Hey, I have a bit of a connumdrum: I'm wanting to send invites to my FI's grandparents, but my FMIL has indicated that she rather I didn't. She lives near them, and if they came they would likely catch a ride with her and my FFIL, and she has told me that she doesn't want to help them with the traveling and also that she thinks it would be exhausting for them due to their age. She's more concerned about the latter part, which I completely empathize with. I don't want to make my FI's grandparents feel obligated, and I would in no way be offended if they didn't want to come to the wedding. However, it feels like a huge snub/insult to not at least send them an invite.
I would like to send them an invite, but make it clear that there is no obligation to come and there will be no hard feelings if they don't.
I think it ought really be my FI's desicion, but everytime I've asked him about it he's completely nuetral on the issue (which is a little frustrating).
It would help us to know what the proper ediquette in this situation is: Should we send invites (letting them know there are no obligations or hard feelings attached), or should we not send invites?
Also, if they did end up coming my FI and I have no problem helping them set up alternative travel arrangements so that we didn't put his mother out.
Don't mind me... I haven't slept since last Wednesday.