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Remembering those that have passed away?

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My fiance's father has passed away and i have many people on my side of the family that have also passed.  I always thought these people would be at our wedding but they didnt make it...so that is why i wanted to do something special for them...  I would like to do a slide show of all the family/friends that are close to me and my fiance and are unable to be with us for our wedding.  I was thinking of using Josh Grobans song "to where you are" .  At my gf's wedding this past sept she used that same song to dance with her mom since her dad passed away already.  It made me cry.

Anyone else doing anything like this or have seen anyone do anything like this for their wedding?

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    dancingbride2010dancingbride2010
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    edited December 2011
    my mom passed away and we have other loved ones who will not beable to share out day as well. I love this idea of the slide show.
    something I will be doing is on the last page of the program having an "in memory of" section and listing all the names who couldnt be there with us and letting everyone know they are always in our hearts.

    My FI lost his Best Friend when he was a teen and if he didnt pass...he'd probably be our best man. he is going to be giving a very nice gift to his groomsmen that has to do with Nick. they were all friends with him so its something nice.

    My mom passed away from Breast Cancer. I am planning on having the guys were a pink ribbon as well as haviing a basket of pink ribbons for the guests to wear.
    Also, I candle and a flower vase for an "in memory of area."

    Im sure i will think of more things  but i hope this helped you alittle more. you can always make a gift for him to recieve the day of...a scrapbook? or even a letter espressing how much you love him and you know his father is there and he has the best seat in the house....which...of course...he will!
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    miguelhilary2010miguelhilary2010
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    edited December 2011
    I got an engraved glass vase with names.  We'll probably also acknowledge them on the program.

    I think the slide show is a very loving idea, but do you think it will upset people?
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    ChanelShadesChanelShades
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    edited December 2011
    I was wondering if that would make people cry. Or feel bad for dancing and enjoying the moment. BUT I do think it is a great idea. I actually would do the same at my wedding if I were in your situation. 
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    demarcosjddemarcosjd
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    edited December 2011
    My Grandmom passed away and FI only has his Grandpop around. We are dedicating our ceremony to the Grandparents who have passed. This will be mentioned in our program. We are also using our engagement photo as our signing book (it will be in a matted frame) around our picture we are displaying all of our Grandparents wedding photos. We figured it's a nice way to incorporate them without going over the top.
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    SJGirl0811SJGirl0811 member
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    edited December 2011
    We have the same issue, my fi's father passed away a few years ago.  I'm afraid that a slideshow would bring too many people to tears, including me - and I never met him.  We have a while to think about it but I think a mention in the program and hopefully in one of the toasts and/or blessing would be good.  I'm interested in what others suggest.
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    sas0402sas0402 member
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    edited December 2011
    Well... I guess it might make people get upset... but in a good way i hoped.  My Fiances father has been dead for over 10yrs now... so its not a recent death... i dont think i would have done a slide show if it was a fresh wound.  I guess i didnt realize it might have a negative effect on the guest because my friend used the same song to dance with her mom (because her father passed away yrs ago)... it made me cry but in a good way.  It was a way to show she was thinking of her father... the words of the song made me have comfort because it says "I know your looking down upon me" type of thing.

    hmm... my fiance liked the slide show idea... but i will ask him if he thinks it might be to upsetting for the guests now.
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    larmoserlarmoser member
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    edited December 2011
    we are having a manzantia tree centerpiece at the escort card table and we plan on having hanging photo frames with pictues of loved ones who are not able to be at our wedding....
    you could also do a memorial table with photos
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    cutie4420cutie4420
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    edited December 2011
    My brother passed away 5 years ago and he would have definitely been in our wedding. I am having one of my friends walk alone down the aisle with a candle instead of her bouquet in honor of him, and just have another bridesmaid with 2 groomsman. I am going to have a table at the front of the church for the candle. Also have a little poem in the programs with the names who have passed away.
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    Sonya12Sonya12
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    edited December 2011

    For my wedding we are going to a sldeshow during the parent dances.  My father passed 2 years ago and both of my FI's passed.  I think that having the slideshow is a nice way to remember those who have passed on.  For my slideshow I am playing a Chrisette Michelle song called Joy.  The words to the song are beautiful.  I am actually more worried about myself being emotional then anyone else.  I believe that some people there will probably get emotional and maybe cry but once its over I don't think it will put a damper on the rest of your night. 

    I would say this, if its something that you really want to do, I wouln't worry about whether other people are going to think about it.  It's your night.  This is our way of paying tribute to our parents that are unable to attend and I think that if we cancelled it because of other people's reactions or feelings that we would regret it later.

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