The other day I let it slip to my grandmother that I will not be having a church wedding. My whole family is catholic and while I grew up in the faith I do not practice it. This is also my second marriage. The first one I eloped for and could always have annulled if I want since it is not recognised by the church anyway but I feel like I would just be using the church as a prop for my wedding instead of fully participating in a sacrament. My FI is also not religious though his father and step mother are practicing presbyterians and his mother and step father are religious during holidays only. So there would also be the problem of picking which church to have the ceremony in if we wanted to with the different faiths. How do we explain nicely to those who will have hurt feelings (my grandmother, his father) that we want an outdoor wedding with an officient, not a priest or pastor. I am just getting tired of my grandmothers snide comments about how my marriage wont be accepted if its not in the church its making me want to scream "IM NOT CATHOLIC, YOU ARE, BUT IM NOT"
Edit: Additional info: My grandmother pretty much raised me and is the person i am closest to in my family and we had a falling out after my first marriage ( i eloped and she balmes my ex on me leaving my religion he is athiest not true but whatever) we are back to the terms we were on before that happened but i am afraid of another falling out.