My sons finance asked his older sister to be a bridesmaide and told his youger sister ( who will 18 by wedding) that she would a jr birdesmaide and would NOT be standing w/ the other bridesmaides she would sitting w/ the younger children in wedding to keep a eye on them. My sons younger sister is very hurt by this, because she has been told in the past she would be a brides maide. We are very close to my sons fiance.We always include her in all family events as if they were already married. They have been together for 7 yrs now. My son told his father that his fiance was tring to think of a way to include his younger sister.
We have chose to have his younger sister just sit w/ us. I do not want her to the baby sitter. My son has 2 sisters and we have always been a close family.