I've been a bridesmaid about five times in recent years but only recently has this question popped up. Has anyone heard of this before? And if so, how common is it? From a personal viewpoint I see no problems with it, but some traditionalists seem to.
My friends and their fiances/husbands all know each other and have the same friends. It hardly seems fair that if the bride's best friend is a guy, she'd not have him at her bachelorette party just because he's also the groom's friend.
I get that it's called a bachelorette party for a reason (being for just the girls), but lately it seems like traditions don't seem to matter as much. See: wedding cupcakes vs. cake, brides with colored shoes, uni-sex wedding showers, and a beanie baby toss after the bouquet toss.