I'm really struggling you guys. My dad has been absent from my life for almost all of it (he is from another country and after he and my mom got divorced he moved back). We talk fairly often and although he hasn't earned much respect from me (he never paid child support like he was supposed to and I literally have not seen him in person in 15 years) but since he is my father I respect him in that way. My mom has been remarried since I was about 8 years old and while I respect my step father and he has supported me financially for many years, we don't have a very close relationship.
So here is my dilemma--my mom wants me to ask my step dad to walk me down the aisle. It isnt that I DON'T want him to, I just feel that this might disrespect my father and my fathers side of the family (who I love). However, if I just had my dad walk me down the aisle it would disrespect my step dad, which I'd like to avoid as well.
My original plan all of my life was to have my maternal grandfather walk me down the aisle. He has been the only man that has remained consistently in my life--however, he passed away 3 years ago from lung cancer, so that is no longer an option unfortunately
I asked my mom if she would walk me but she said she'd rather not (shes shy). She proposed I walk in between both my dad and step father but I don't really want to do that either--I would feel like I would be uncomfortable being symbolically "wedged" in between my two families. So what do I do? Walk alone?
I guess I can always say that my grandfather is walking me down the aisle in spirit!
Sorry for the long post...