My wedding is over 5 months away. My cousins are all older than me, and I am inviting them. 99% of our guests are out of state and will have to travel. My friends are using it as a parents only weekend. I discussed this with one cousin who has four children (two teens, one pre-teen, and one toddler) and she was on board with it. Her and her husband usually take a couple only trip once a year. Well, now out of the blue, she called my mom and said she was brining all 4 kids and I would get over it. She said my friends are so she is, even though she knows my friends aren't. Even if she calls her kids adults (teenagers), we didnt invite second cousins. How do I make her understand? I prefer not to be blunt or rude, but will be if necessary. Food is expensive (atleast $70 pp) as with all weddings, so we tried to keep the guest list down.
Is it that out of the ordinary not inviting kids? We are having an open bar, and I know she doesn't allow her children around drinks. I thought that would have been reason enough to make it an adults day.
Any advice would be great!!