To begin, FH and I have been doing a lot of compromising with our wedding. We are having a large reception nearly 300 people. I made the mistake of not limiting the invites for each side. FH parents have added almost twice as many guest as my side. (My parents are paying for everything). I did get them to cut a few. FH and I were in aggreement that they were adding just crazy amount of people. Anyway, originally FH and I were going to pay for the rehersal dinner becasue his parents do not have the extra money. I was planning on inviting our out of state guests to dinner. Nothing fancy BBQ in the church basement. However, when they stated they wanted to pay, they seemed upset that I wanted my out of state guests there, because of the cost. Am I asking too much to invite them, I feel that they didn't have a problem adding all these extra people to the reception. (they know that the cost per plate is 30.00ish) I again offered to pay for the extra people at the rehersal dinner. I don't feel that it is too much to ask for our OK, MO, TN, GA guests to be invited to dinner. Thoughts?