FI and I went and met with our possible Pastor last night...First awkward situation...Meeting at his house. Now I use to go to this church and I ran the nursery. I was also baptized by him. He has 7 children. Our questionnaire we had to fill out prior to meeting was in one the kids Easter baskets on the mantel.....it says on the documents it's confidential....that doesn't seem to confidential to me. He was 15 minutes late to our meeting. FI and I sat in (what I'm expecting to be) their formal family room and got stared down by said children. I understand with 7 kids things get messy! But this room was like trashed.
When he finally got there, we started talking......
He just couldn't get off the fact that FI had been cut from his job and isn't working. We told him how it's been working (which is fine) and FI knew he had to get a job and he's been looking but the job market isn't the best right now. He also wants to call our parents and make sure they are okay with it.....uhm excuse me. If my mom & dad weren't okay with it why would they be letting him live here with us?!
He said he wasn't going to poke & pry but highly doubt that. He said he just wanted to make sure we have a support net.....oh did I mention that we're living with my parents?! What more of a support net do you need to confirm?!?!?! He also said that since he has daughters he's also seeing things through his 'dad' eyes as if I was his daughter.....I'm not and your family is completely opposite than mine is! He said he would want the future husband to be able to support his daughter. I told him it would be hard for FI to support me because I can't stand not working!!!
I guess it just bugs the crap out of me because he's married people (like 18-23) who've gotten pregnant prior to being married or where the guy is a total jerk to the girl. It's just frustrating.
He made it sound like he wasn't going to marry us the whole time (1.5 hours) then as we were getting ready to leave was like "I'm so honored that you'd ask me to wed you and blah blah blah" Ending our conversation with "I'm sure we can get this to work out" I'm not sure what needed to be worked out (since he never told us...). He also said he wants us to interview 2 different couples who have "Awesome Marriages" and was going to give us a sheet to fill out.....which we never got.
I have this feeling we'll be looking for a different route for someone to marry us....FI said he'd get ordained online! lol.
Vent done.