I'm new to the board and need advice.
My fiance has been receiving the cold shoulder from just about everyone in my family, except one brother. My parents especially are the real problem. This is my second wedding and I just want my new life with hm to be perfect. We've been together for almost 2 years and have set the date for the ceremony to July 2011. So lots of time has come and gone, let alone some to be yet before the ceremony even gets here. My mom wouldnt even meet with my fiance and he has on many occasions seen her at church and other social events we attend, but she turns her back on him and says "im not interested in talking to you". How christian is that? That sparked a 9 month "no talking to my mom" fight. She and I are at least on speaking terms now and I told her how I just "want to be happy again, time is short in life". 'she says he's not right for me and she says I deserve better, someone who can "take care of me, financially". Now, hub to be is just a nice guy and a hard worker, has moved to be closer to me two hrs from his prev. residence and family. He has a steady full time job in our town and he is, I feel, being judged by my family before they even get to know him. My dad cannot see him because he is housebound physically and I now I cannot bring fiance to meet at my parents cuz of how my mom feels.
I have since spoke to my mom more about how I feel and told her not to split my family (three kids previously) for the upcoming holidays. I want him to be invited to thanksgiving dinner, which she has planned at her home. She took a few days to think about it, and then said he could come. Now I know that is a step in the right direction, but Im worried about this day coming soon, this thursday.
Does any one have something simiuliar happen to you, or do you have any advice for me? I've asked my sister and 15yr daughter to be in the weddingk and they accepted. I'm not sure if my mom would even come to the wedding or reception, so far early on, she said she wouldnt because she didnt approve.
any thoughts...? so sorry its a long soap opera.