My fiance is a wonderful, intelligent, creative and caring man. His younger sister (who is my age) is an inconsiderate, selfish and rude whore. An understatement of the century. All throughout middle/high school we have never been close. In fact, multiple times we have gotten into verbal fights.
Now just the thought of her annoys me. The fact that she is very neglectful to her son (still waiting on the report on which of the FIVE men is the father!) in addition to having failed out of college with no desire to get a job, let alone get off of her parents' couch, drives me into a frenzy.
His parents are very sweet, well-meaning people. However they are complete doormats. Not once have they ever told her, or even asked her, for things like "please go back to school," "stop drinking beer during your pregnancy" or "we cannot watch your son tonight while you go out and get stoned."
My 16 year old brother is going to be one of my fiance's groomsmen. I do understand that the wedding party is for those very close to you. My fiance and my brother are not VERY close. However they get along incredibly well and have many things in common. I do believe that if there was not a 9 year difference, they would be much closer.
I have never been close to his sister. I know she hates me and many times in high school she resorted to writing nasty things about me online.
His parents expect me to have her as a bridesmaid. While I understand that it seems like a logical decision, since my brother will be a groomsman, I do not want her to be a part of the wedding party at all.
She is a horribly mean girl and I do not think it is fair of them to expect me to choose her as a bridesmaid.
However, I'm sure they are already upset over the fact that we have decided to have a Greek Orthodox wedding over a Presbyterian wedding (note: his father works for the church!)
What do I do? I have not "officially" chosen my bridesmaids yet, but I feel as if they are waiting for me to "pop the question."
More importantly, what do I say when they ask why she wasn't chosen?