Catholic Wedding & Groom's Step-Father

Re: Catholic Wedding & Groom's Step-Father

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  HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  May 2013 edited May 2013

  I'm skipping @LAM2228's random misinterpretation of scripture because it makes my head hurt. But FYI, you're wrong and you clearly missed some sacraments along the way.
  
  OP, quite aside from the fact that you're putting the cart so far before the horse you can't see one from the other....
  
  What your grandmothers think about your BF's stepfather is totally irrelevant to anything. Congrats to them for being married until death. That's bully. They don't get to judge anyone else's relationship -- and neither do you. Your BF's step-father will be treated as his mother's spouse. You don't get to try to re-create nuclear families to suit your grandmothers' outdated idea of propriety. And you DEFINITELY don't get to insult people's relationships.
  
  Also, given that the Catholic Church only governs the marital status of those participating in the rite (I.e., you and your BF), the marital status of his parents is irrelevant. Also, if he's not Catholic, unless you do pre-Cana and he agrees to raise your kids Catholic, the church won't recognise your union anyway. Worry about you and him; leave his parents out of it.
  
  Also, no one HAS TO process into the church at all -- NOT EVEN YOU! So I assure you, the church doesn't give a damn rat's ass about your BF's step-father.
  
  The rest of your question is utterly irrelevant until you have a date for your wedding and any and all parents have VOLUNTEERED (you do not get to ask!!) to help pay.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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  daveANDkristen member

  

  May 2013 edited May 2013

  Agree with Liatris' last post as well as most everyone else here. The main solution I was going to suggest is Groom walks in with his mother and the dad & stepdad do not process in, or Groom is escorted by both of his parents.

  That being said, I think that your grandmothers need to get over it. We all begin our marriages hoping they will last forever, and those that don't work out do not deserve judgement from anyone just because their marriage did.

   

  ETA: Clarity.

  
  

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  LAM524 member

  

  May 2013

  @lemclane.. You asked me about my Baptisms and I told you. You also asked what I "say" about Eph 4:5. so I said. I didnt realize you asked me to judge me. I truly thought you were asking out of "fellowship" or else I never would have told you my feelings. I am not sure what you have judged me "wrong" about. Whether your opinion is about my parents choice or mine with baptism or my thoughts on this scripture. Either way, I do not care. It is not your judgement that determines my eternal life. We all have opportunity to grow in His word and each of us, who believe, have our own personal relationship with Jesus.
  
  
  OP, I will not dismiss your concerns because you are not engaged, after all, its not as if this issue will magically disappear once a ring is on your finger. Conflicts, especially religious ones should be worked out before a decision to marry is made. I also wont judge you because the Priest of this church has given you something to be concerned about. I understand your concerns and I feel anytime you can find peace in resolving a problem, especially involving something so important as family, more power to you!! Blessings to you and yours.
  

  
  

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  HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  May 2013 edited May 2013

  @LAM2228I didn't ask you about your baptisms; someone else did. Sorry. I know you want to be mad at me, but I didn't do it.
  
  What you're wrong about is having either missed entirely or missed the point of confirmation and reconciliation.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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  smalfrie19 member

  

  May 2013

  LAM if you really knew what you were talking about..in the Catholic religion (specifically) You are baptized and then you take your first communion and reconciliation and then you are confirmed. This is NOTa second baptism

  

  
  

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  RamonaFlowers member

  

  May 2013 edited May 2013

  OP, from your f/u post it really just sounds like your bf doesn't like his step-dad for whatever reason and is really just looking for loopholes to play the "You're Not My Real Dad" card as many times as he can at your wedding. Which is incredibly immature.
  
  Since getting engaged and married is on the distant future, I'd say let it go for now ... and if he still hasn't learned how to be a grown up by then (and accepted that Mommy snd Daddy aren't gettimg back together, and step-dad is the man his mother is married to) you should re-consider being in a relationship with somebody so petty and childish,

  
  

  *I felt sorry for my husband before I met him. Take a number.*
  

  
  

  
  

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  LAM524 member

  

  May 2013

  @lemclane....I am so sorry!! Truly, I do not wish to be mad at you!  Seriously, I blurred both posts together!! Up all night battling illness!!!
  
  @lalaith50...Because my reply to your question was addressed by lemclane, I mistakenly merged my response soley to lemclane. If you dont mind reading through it, Im sure you will find my thoughts.
  
  @smalfrie19...I am aware of the Catholic sacraments and I didnt mean to imply that my 2nd baptism was Catholic. I was baptized, as an adult by my Christian Pastor, as a Christian.
  

  
  

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