Hey all! I just want to get other people's opinion on this in case I am in the wrong.
I was talking with FI last night about attire. We are having a medieval themed wedding, but I didn't want my BM and his GM in costumes, so I had told him months ago to research things that are modern but that we can add medieval elements to (ex. My BM will have maille hand flowers but are wearing normal dresses). Well, he had sent a BM dress suggestion to me which was a flat-out medieval costume. I was concerned that he didn't understand what I meant by "no costumes", and it turns out that all the research that he has been doing on what the GM will be wearing is very costumey. I think a theme should be kept more to the reception, and so he now wants the GM to wear suits for the ceremony AND THEN CHANGE INTO MEDIEVAL COSTUMES! My thoughts are that this will reflect oddly on us as the couple that we are being so extravagant as to have half of our wedding party (no way are my BM having two outfits) have a wardrobe change, and also that this is asking way too much of his GM. Isn't it rude to ask GM to get two outfits for one day? And I'm pretty sure FI knows that getting extras for attire is a cost that we should budget for, but I'm not seeing room for buying three medieval costumes for the GM in our budget. So I think he might be expecting them to foot the bill, which I also think is not right.
Am I wrong? Or am I missing something? If we do pay for the extra outfits, would it not be bad etiquette to get the GM to change, or should I go with my gut that this is asking too much of them and is completely unnecessary?