Hi, so I have some questions and concerns for everyone here on the Knot. I would appreciate any feedback! My wedding is June 29, 2013. I am still working on getting the bachelorette party planned but one of the main problems is that my MOH is my sister and she is only 20. She is having a really hard time planning for later on in the evening when we all want to go to dinner and drink. I have hinted at my 3 other bridesmaids for ideas and no one seems to really care or want to help. I am not asking them to stop their lives for me or contribute a lot of money but it really bothers me that no one seems to want to help. I feel really discouraged. I feel like wedding blogs, boards, and websites have led me astray with what bridesmaids should/should not help me with. What exactly is a bridesmaid supposed to help with? I see people's posts on here saying they should help plan the bridal shower and bachelorette and I see other posts that say that bridesmaids aren't obligated to do anything but stand with me and look good. I, as a friend would personally get excited over planning a party for one of my friends and would do anything I could to help, but I guess that probably doesn't apply to me. My bridesmaids did not plan the bridal shower at all and it was planned and hosted by my grandma and great aunt at my grandma's house. My bridesmaids showed up 2 HOURS LATE. I was super upset but I tried not to let it get to me, it would have been different if they were just guests but they are my BRIDESMAIDS at least show up on time.
Also, one of my bridesmaids scheduled her bachelorette party June 1st, a few weeks before my wedding and her wedding isn't until September. I am super confused as to why it had to be scheduled then instead of July or August. One of her bridesmaids already has the whole day planned. I feel like my BM is trying to upstage me and overshadow me. I am super upset and I'm not sure if this even sounds rational. I feel so unimportant. I am turning to family and people that aren't in the bridal party to help me plan to at least get some ideas, basic financial layout, and to help it all run smoothly. I understand that my bridesmaids are busy and live in different cities than I do but I feel like maybe they could help out a little more and be more involved. I don't want to hurt their feelings but I don't want my heart to be broken either. I am one lost, sad, emotional, and hurt bride.