When my fiance and I first started to plan the wedding together we decided on a guest list of 150. We both have plenty of friends and I come from a large family, so our first decision was not have children under 18 attend. However we are having a flower girl and ring bearer. A good friend of ours little girl is going to be our flower girl and she has a teenage brother. My fiance told the family that we were sorry to have to do this but the teenager could not attend. We felt so badly about this but if he attends then a major war would be started with our families. Everyone is aware of the flower girl and ring bearer attending the wedding. We tried to explain to the family friend that a lot of our family wasn't invited due to no children. I wish I could invite everyone but we simply don't have the budget for it. The family friend is saying that they are refusing to go due to us not inviting the teenager. So we have no flower girl
My fiance is crushed with their decision not to attend and feels that some of our other friends might not attend because of this. Was it wrong of us to tell them that? I want to make everyone happy but it's impossible. My fiance and I just wanted our loved ones to see us get married but why all the drama? Should we just nix the whole ring bearer and flower girl idea?