I don't even know if this is etiquette, but I'm wondering about what is proper or acceptable. Not that it even matters- it might be a "do whatever the hell you want".
I haven't decided yet whether or not I will change my name. I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to decide. I'm wondering, if I don't legally change my last name, can our married monogram still be (Mary Smith and John Doe) MJD or mDj? Am I still considered Mrs. Doe since I am the wife of John Doe? Maybe this is less a question about monograms and more of me just having an identity crisis, but whatever. I want to register for pretty monogrammed things!