This past Sunday was my boss's shower, which I agreed to go to since I will not be attending her wedding. The shower was lovely, hosted by her mom, and I even met up with my boss early to do her makeup for her. At the shower, champagne, red, and white wine were hosted and there was a cash bar. I had one paid for glass of wine, the rest of what I drank was the hosted stuff. All the girls from work had a blast--there was a DJ, there were lights, my boss's cousin greeted us all upon arrival totally blasted--it was a fun few hours.
Today, my co-worker told me that our boss asked her if I was drunk at the shower. She told her "not anymore than the rest of us?" to which my boss replied "She was only drinking that much because it was free."
I'm fucking fuming right now. My boss knows my financial situation, she sees my paycheck every other week and she knows that I don't have much spending money after I pay bills. She was essentially say, "JellyBean's only drinking because she's broke and doesn't have to pay for it herself." For her to sit there and pass judgment on me for indulging in the hosted beverages, let alone behind my back to a co-worker while at work, is the rudest and most unprofessional shit I've ever heard. Plus, I'm just very hurt because I came to her a while back as a friend and told her that if I didn't have a raise, I would have to move back to NY because a very extreme set of circumstances occurred that jeopardized my living situation. She advocated for me to get the raise to the owner, because it was worth it to keep me there. I'm confused as to what she really thinks of me. My co-worker is begging me not to say anything, but I don't know if I can keep quiet about this. I prefer not to be the subject of ridicule while at work.